Before I had my girlfriend, I would go out to the local dance clubs with my close buds and pick up on the girls there. We got a lot of phone numbers, and it was always interesting to see where things would end up with the girls from there.
I danced with girls that were engaged, got phone numbers from girls that were in relationships, got a lot of fake numbers, and met a lot of single girls. In that kind of environment, it's really hard to gauge the girl's actual interest level in you. Some are out to have fun with their friends, some have no backbone and will give you their number even though they don't really want to, and some do it for an ego boost. Most of the good looking women in there (especially if alcohol is involved) are approached by several guys a night, so you may be at a disadvantage already when you approach them ("oh great, another guy is going to spit a drunken slur at me")
At the same token, there are a lot of hot single girls in these environments that will give you a real phone number and will really want you to contact them. Sometimes it takes a little screening to find which ones they are, but sometimes you have to have blind luck to find one. A couple years ago, I met a girl who I really hit it off with at a local dance club, and we casually dated for a couple months, but the majority of girls (including my current g/f) I've dated I've met in more normal, "safe" places.
The context you're in can play a big part of the overall interaction between you and the women there. If you're looking for a girlfriend, you're probably better off searching at some place where you two have common ground (exercise program, some hobby you have). Don't let a few bad apples discourage you though. Eventually, if you're persistent, you WILL find someone who you're compatible with.
I danced with girls that were engaged, got phone numbers from girls that were in relationships, got a lot of fake numbers, and met a lot of single girls. In that kind of environment, it's really hard to gauge the girl's actual interest level in you. Some are out to have fun with their friends, some have no backbone and will give you their number even though they don't really want to, and some do it for an ego boost. Most of the good looking women in there (especially if alcohol is involved) are approached by several guys a night, so you may be at a disadvantage already when you approach them ("oh great, another guy is going to spit a drunken slur at me")
At the same token, there are a lot of hot single girls in these environments that will give you a real phone number and will really want you to contact them. Sometimes it takes a little screening to find which ones they are, but sometimes you have to have blind luck to find one. A couple years ago, I met a girl who I really hit it off with at a local dance club, and we casually dated for a couple months, but the majority of girls (including my current g/f) I've dated I've met in more normal, "safe" places.
The context you're in can play a big part of the overall interaction between you and the women there. If you're looking for a girlfriend, you're probably better off searching at some place where you two have common ground (exercise program, some hobby you have). Don't let a few bad apples discourage you though. Eventually, if you're persistent, you WILL find someone who you're compatible with.
