mahon83050
Banned
First dates are also awkward for two people who don't really know each other. Sometimes it is difficult to have fun when their is anxiety floating around.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Getting rejected alot after first dates.
- Thread starter mahon83050
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
diplomatic_lies
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You're not talking about your racial theories on dates, are you? Talking about politics can make me lose a stiffy.
mahon83050
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Racial theories? Since when do I have racial theories? Yes, I have talked bad about Muslims and Islam, but last I checked...they don't fit into the category of race.diplomatic_lies said:
Chillisauce
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haha, you seriously talk about religion on a first date?
Heres a few 'banned!' topics for first dates:
-religion (if you spent more than 2 minutes bagging muslims i personally wouldnt see you for a 2nd date)
-war
-aids
-politics
-anything negative about your social life/job/family/the place you are currently on your date
-abortion,marriage,divorce
-philosophy
-Boasting about anything (she WILL pickup on it)
- handicapped people, racism, bias' in general
- illegal acts in which you have participated
- death, the fungal infection on your arse
Basically try to avoid any topics which will cause feelings of sadness, boredom, anger from conflicting arguments, or portray you as a petty whinger (negativity)
I'll add to this list saturday, i'm off to a FBs house for a few days
Heres a few 'banned!' topics for first dates:
-religion (if you spent more than 2 minutes bagging muslims i personally wouldnt see you for a 2nd date)
-war
-aids
-politics
-anything negative about your social life/job/family/the place you are currently on your date
-abortion,marriage,divorce
-philosophy
-Boasting about anything (she WILL pickup on it)
- handicapped people, racism, bias' in general
- illegal acts in which you have participated
- death, the fungal infection on your arse
Basically try to avoid any topics which will cause feelings of sadness, boredom, anger from conflicting arguments, or portray you as a petty whinger (negativity)
I'll add to this list saturday, i'm off to a FBs house for a few days
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
Why not friendly? I love Berlin.mahon83050 said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
HAHA, seriously that quote would go perfect to Brian from Family Guy.diplomatic_lies said:
mahon83050
Banned
Maybe that is because I do not look Northern European.....I could pass for a Turk.Phoenix_of_the_ashes said: