"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting past excuses from women not to set up date

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How do you overcome this:

You get a girl's number via a cold approach.

You call her and suggest doing an activity on a certain date. She says that she can't make a commitment at the present time, but to call her back on that day. You give rebuttals and then logically trap her to the point where both of you know she is BS'ing but she still keeps saying " I like the idea, but something might come up that day" or other "what if" BS.

What do you do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You next her? You should never 'logically prove to a woman xyz' -- that makes no sense. This doesn't mean you don't call her on her ****, but that you don't tell her off when you next her.
 

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Nothing can be done but backing off and trying later. When a woman is doing this she is invariably "turning you down" the excuses have nothing to do with wether or not she will go out with you. I mean, you can embarrass her into admiting that she has no reason NOT to go out with you other than her interest level, but that will do nothing but get a painful fact out in the open when she was trying to be tactful, at the very least it will NOT raie her interest level. Again...back off and try again...you need a higher interest level here. (sometimes it's her and not you...recent breakup/met a guy she's into etc.)
 

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You: OMG, you are SUCH a total FLAKE! [playful]
HB: No I'm not! [outrage]
You: You're are like my little sister, so totally disorganized! I don't even want to go out with you anymore! (Credit TD)
HB: No, no! I'm not disorganized!
You: I just want to adopt you as my own little sister and help you organize all your stuff.


Note, this assumes that your phone game is pretty upbeat and not logical and boring. This is totally illogical, emotional, pushes her away, negs her, forces her to qualify herself, roleplays, removes her reality and leaves only your reality, and leaves open the option of a day2.

Field tested, PUA approved.

The reality is though is that if you had played a tight game, then she WOULD be interested in a meet. Consider this, if you had put in an extra 30 minutes of game time with her, your phone game time could be correspondingly short and easier to set up a meet. In fact, during your field time with her, be MEET ORIENTED. The #-close is just a small step, talk about meeting up, future project, etc.
 
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