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Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 10, 2019
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- 35
It’s been awhile since I last posted on here. That last post was supposed to be a journal recording my progress with getting back into a relationship after my last one ended. Since then I entered into another relationship but that ended too, with more drama than the last one.
I won’t beat around the bush, I neglected my original commitment and I don’t have any legitimate excuses: I basically stopped dating around both for logistical and personal reasons. For one I went back home to try to improve my financial situation. Which worked out really well – I’m no longer in massive debt.
Though, even with my accomplishment, I just stopped going out. Going to events was a chore. Especially when I went solo. What was easy for me with approaching strangers now became a hard effort even to the point of anxiety. I wasn’t afraid of getting shot down at all, but the after fact of awkwardly sitting on my hands trying to figure out what to do next after getting shot down was an irrational fear. That scenario doesn’t sit well with me.
And sometimes I can’t help but have that gnawing feeling that I’m not getting anywhere with the woman I’m gaming even though on the surface she’s clearly showing interest. It bothers the hell outta me. Or the dumb “**** tests” that they front with when you try approaching them, like, I’m just not in the mood to deal with that right now. Or the fact that you have to deal with the AMOGs even when just want to be social and make sure friends.
Stuff like that grates my nerves. I’m too old for that **** and playing poker was a more thrilling of a challenge. Or it could be that my drive is still charred to a crisp. Or I could be jaded, but I don't think so
So I was pretty much a hermit of sorts (the covid-19 lockdowns also forced me into that) and rarely did I venture out from my space other than to workout or run errands.
Are there anybody else who have came from the same type scenario in their 30s? Did you change your strategy? Did you try different venues? Or was it just a matter of getting over it?
Thanks guys
I appreciate the responses
I won’t beat around the bush, I neglected my original commitment and I don’t have any legitimate excuses: I basically stopped dating around both for logistical and personal reasons. For one I went back home to try to improve my financial situation. Which worked out really well – I’m no longer in massive debt.
Though, even with my accomplishment, I just stopped going out. Going to events was a chore. Especially when I went solo. What was easy for me with approaching strangers now became a hard effort even to the point of anxiety. I wasn’t afraid of getting shot down at all, but the after fact of awkwardly sitting on my hands trying to figure out what to do next after getting shot down was an irrational fear. That scenario doesn’t sit well with me.
And sometimes I can’t help but have that gnawing feeling that I’m not getting anywhere with the woman I’m gaming even though on the surface she’s clearly showing interest. It bothers the hell outta me. Or the dumb “**** tests” that they front with when you try approaching them, like, I’m just not in the mood to deal with that right now. Or the fact that you have to deal with the AMOGs even when just want to be social and make sure friends.
Stuff like that grates my nerves. I’m too old for that **** and playing poker was a more thrilling of a challenge. Or it could be that my drive is still charred to a crisp. Or I could be jaded, but I don't think so
So I was pretty much a hermit of sorts (the covid-19 lockdowns also forced me into that) and rarely did I venture out from my space other than to workout or run errands.
Are there anybody else who have came from the same type scenario in their 30s? Did you change your strategy? Did you try different venues? Or was it just a matter of getting over it?
Thanks guys
I appreciate the responses