Getting out of the friend zone

[bignick79]

Evening Gentlemen!

Here's the problem, this female friend (and I hate saying friend, but thats the truth of the matter) we've gone out several times and I seem to have made some headway in breaking though the just friends syndrome. The physical contact has increased greatly, meaning holding hands, eye contact, even just standing there, she is making some form of contact with me. So i definately feel good that I'm getting out of the friend zone.

Also, i've tried to build some sexual tension with her, we had a conversation that went like this: Talking about an bootleg movie

Me: That's illegal, im gonna turn you in
Her: I know, im a bad girl
Me: Yes u are and you must be punished!
Her: Are you going to do the punishing?
Me: You better believe it, and im not going to take it easy on you either.

So we've definately broke though and created some sexual tension. But I'm not sure i've done enough here. Any guys been in this boat and have any suggestions or ideas? Am I getting close here guys?? This is a new challenge for me and your opinions would be greatly appreciated.

BigNick

 

[decades]

its time to fish or cut bait. the next time you are out with her make a definitive move on her. be direct. make a move so she knows what you really want from her. if she doesn't let you and says something like "i could never do that with you" its time to eject and don't look back. Make your move. Now.

 

[Sinistar]

yup, any further interactions with her without showing s3xual desire (via actions, not words) will sink your ship and that word you struggled to use earlier ("friend") will be the word she's telling you next.

 

[blackbelt2k]

off topic, but tell me how this went

So I caught this hb7 that is always smiling at me in the kitchen area...tell me how i did:

me: hey
hb7: hey
me: im sorry, i keep seeing you around, but haven't introduced myself, im __
[gives my hand]
her: im __
me: nice to meet you
[ then another hb7 from the office that smiles at me as well walks in]
me: hey, how are you
hb7_2: im good, you
...i make some comments about the water machine and coffee machine in this area, compared the other one on the floor...i get some laughs..hb7_2 leaves
me: [although im making my coffee, im giving/getting eye contact and smiles] so how long you worked here
she tells me how long she's here, where she's from, etc.. i establish our offices have something in common, cuz they are both hidden..
me: well i have to go get some work done, it was nice meeting you ___
her: it was nice meeting you too

give me pointers so i can learn from my mistakes...

 

[backbreaker]

I'm going to start talking in parables

The best way to get out of the friend zone is to never get in it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

..The best way to get out of the friend zone is to never get in it.

Now that's what I'm talking about. Besides, the whole "bad girl who needs to be punished" is so cliche I'd be surprised if it created any real sexual tension. It could have been some simple harmless flirting that she could have done with any of her guy acquaintances. Like the other said, let's see some action and stop playing games.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

I dunno. Seems to me, there has to be something more drastic than that "bad-girl-punished" line.