"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Getting out of the dreaded friend zone

boogieman2188

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Ok, I've got a little experiment I want to set up and I figured you all could put a little input in for everyone to use that has been in this situation and wanted to get out, but didn't know how.

I liked this girl a few months ago. Quite attractive. Kinda long distance (20 miles). But she believes in long distance relationships so that's not a big problem. Since it's a fact that I'm in her "friend zone" I want to see what it takes to successfully get myself out. That's why I'm doing this test.

I've started talking to her a lot more, and Sunday we're going to the beach. It's a start, but I want everyone else's input on what to do and together, maybe we can help out others. I just thought this little experiment was a cool idea.

Tell me what you think and where I should take it from here.

Thanks. :cool:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ARrocket

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I don't think talking to her a lot more is gonna do the trick...be careful with that.

Kino your @ss off....escalate, escalate, escalate.
 

boogieman2188

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ARrocket said:
I don't think talking to her a lot more is gonna do the trick...be careful with that.

Kino your @ss off....escalate, escalate, escalate.
That's what I plan on doing. Good thing is, she actually gives me something to work with, when I flirt, she flirts back kinda thing.

But remember, this is still just a friend, so I want to do this successfully, and remain friends or more. I don't want it crashing and failing. haha. ;)
 

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Yeah man, I'm in a similar situation with one of the chicks I know

And yes I agree, the easiest way for us to get out of this situation is to as ARocket so eloquently put it:

"Kino your @ss off....escalate, escalate, escalate."
(I'm laughing but it totally true!) :yes:
 
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