"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting out of a commited relationship??

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OK, we're in a commited relationship, but I'm kinda not too happy with it.
Is there a way to get back to "dating" phase and stop being exclusive to each other?

Is there a nice and polite way for me to convince her to accept that kind of relationship, after being commited for about a month or two?

Thanks!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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For one thing, you cannot go backwards in time. Also, if she's in this relationship with marriage or long term committment in mind, she'll drop your ass and find another guy who is willing to fulfill that need.

You're most likely going to have a breakup on your hands. However, her IL in you may go up if you're pulling back.
Saying something stupid like "I'm not really sure I'm ready for this relationship thing" may or may not get you the results you want. It's a hard call.
 
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Well we told we love each other, and decided to become exclusive.

We don't date/fvck other people (at least I don't, that's for sure).

I'll never break my word, even though I now realise that I decided to become exclusive with her too soon.
 
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Hi Desdinova!

I really love to hear your opinion!

She's too old for me, we both decided to stay together until I find someone else :rolleyes: or she finds someone older for a marriage :rolleyes:

I know this sounds stupid. Our relatioship doesn't seem to be that serious...

But I gave my word I wont **** anyone else!!! What can I do?

I'm thinking to pull back a little to get her IL higher, and then when it's on it's peak tell her something like "I can't be with you only", but in that way that she doesn't get hurt and decide to stay with me. (I don't want to break up because I can learn much from her).

I hope some expirinced DJs have some kind of solution?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I must admit i posted on how to break up with girls easy. I got no real responses. I think its something that you cant avoid. Just say you feel you jumped into a LTR too fast before thinking about it.

I still think its going to be very hard without breaking up.
 
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