"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Getting my Girl-friend's Interest Back !

armourknight

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Its been 2 years since our relationship started, she used to have a lot of interest in me & we both were in college then. Things were cool too when we had started working. It started to change when she got this new job recently, around a month ago. Well, now, her job schedule is kinda hectic, All she does these days is "Go to work->Come Back->Sleep" <-and this thing loops !!
She hardly has time for me now, and looks like she has lost interest in me.. Before, she never slept without talkin to me on phone, now she harldy talks to me, or hardly texts me !
Its been a month, i started noticing her lack of interest in me. We used to meet up every saturday, and that has also lessened, couldnt meet her last saturday, I do make the best of it whenever i meet her, but she cant even meet up because of her schedule. And now, its been 3 days we had a exchange of jus 3 text-messages (except for the fight on call this morning, where i asked her, "Do U even remember me ?" :/ ) Well probably, she hardly/never misses me or thinks about me. I wud like to get her interest back, the way it used to be.
I cant dump her :/, I dont feel like. I have had some gals during my college time, but this one is the best i ever had. She used to be different though. And i really do love her !
Any solutions please?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jacob

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Maybe becoming more of a challenge will raise her interest level in you. Stop seeing, calling or texting her, make her chase you and then don't answer, break dates, and just start being a fcking jerk. Good luck...
 

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jacob said:
Maybe becoming more of a challenge will raise her interest level in you. Stop seeing, calling or texting her, make her chase you and then don't answer, break dates, and just start being a fcking jerk. Good luck...
Great advice. Simple but to the point. Being a jerk is underrated, especially in these situations.
 

I'm in the Mood

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This reminds me of the typical AFC story. My advice for you is don't try and "get" her back, because it seems like her interest has faded in you and she's ready to move on from the relationship. You could use so-called "tricks", "tactics", "strategies", etc., but that will only get in the way of you realizing your own attractiveness within, which when it's fully realized, you can use to get and keep any woman you want. A relationship must be mutual, and you can't convince a woman into a relationship, so you're better off just trying one last time and then calling it quits on this chick. Two years is a long relationship, and there are plenty of women out there that you can potentially be just as interested in as this one. Moving on is the hardest step, but you can do it!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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not bad advice from mood. why play the game of being a jerk just to get her interest back up? she loves the challenge, the chase, the drama, not you. better to move on.
 

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If she loves you but is bored then you can turn things around by stoking the fires of attraction. That starts at being less boring yourself which is affected by not being so available as was posted above. Another is to read up on how to pass sh!t tests. That alone can make things change considerably. Read this for more info:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/relationship-game-week-a-readers-journey/
 

armourknight

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Nutz said:
If she loves you but is bored then you can turn things around by stoking the fires of attraction. That starts at being less boring yourself which is affected by not being so available as was posted above. Another is to read up on how to pass sh!t tests. That alone can make things change considerably. Read this for more info:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/relationship-game-week-a-readers-journey/
Yes, she does love me. and i know, she wouldnt bear the thought of me dumping her ! She's just bored of everything around her !
Thanks for the link wil check that out !
 

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your only currency is the fact that you control her access to your time and attention

tina turner said it best "what's love got to do with it"

be aware that women typically avoid doing the breaking up. they prefer to be dumped so that they can get sympathy and attention from their peers

many women instead send "break up with me" signals but most guys are oblivious so we stay in the relationship way too long
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thanks for replying Aaron.

Well, actually she does not want to dump me, neither does she wants to get dumped. I know her very well, and one more reason y i say so is, she wudnt have cried up to tell me "please dont leave me, i cannot live without u" !!
Had a nice-decent chat with her recently. She's kinda bored of the present life-situation, she actually doesnt have any interest in anything these days..
I guess, i need to take her on a nice-holiday to cheer up her mood !!
 
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