"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Getting my Girl-friend's Interest Back !

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Its been 2 years since our relationship started, she used to have a lot of interest in me & we both were in college then. Things were cool too when we had started working. It started to change when she got this new job recently, around a month ago. Well, now, her job schedule is kinda hectic, All she does these days is "Go to work->Come Back->Sleep" <-and this thing loops !!
She hardly has time for me now, and looks like she has lost interest in me.. Before, she never slept without talkin to me on phone, now she harldy talks to me, or hardly texts me !
Its been a month, i started noticing her lack of interest in me. We used to meet up every saturday, and that has also lessened, couldnt meet her last saturday, I do make the best of it whenever i meet her, but she cant even meet up because of her schedule. And now, its been 3 days we had a exchange of jus 3 text-messages (except for the fight on call this morning, where i asked her, "Do U even remember me ?" :/ ) Well probably, she hardly/never misses me or thinks about me. I wud like to get her interest back, the way it used to be.
I cant dump her :/, I dont feel like. I have had some gals during my college time, but this one is the best i ever had. She used to be different though. And i really do love her !
Any solutions please?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Maybe becoming more of a challenge will raise her interest level in you. Stop seeing, calling or texting her, make her chase you and then don't answer, break dates, and just start being a fcking jerk. Good luck...
 
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jacob said:
Maybe becoming more of a challenge will raise her interest level in you. Stop seeing, calling or texting her, make her chase you and then don't answer, break dates, and just start being a fcking jerk. Good luck...
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Great advice. Simple but to the point. Being a jerk is underrated, especially in these situations.
 
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This reminds me of the typical AFC story. My advice for you is don't try and "get" her back, because it seems like her interest has faded in you and she's ready to move on from the relationship. You could use so-called "tricks", "tactics", "strategies", etc., but that will only get in the way of you realizing your own attractiveness within, which when it's fully realized, you can use to get and keep any woman you want. A relationship must be mutual, and you can't convince a woman into a relationship, so you're better off just trying one last time and then calling it quits on this chick. Two years is a long relationship, and there are plenty of women out there that you can potentially be just as interested in as this one. Moving on is the hardest step, but you can do it!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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not bad advice from mood. why play the game of being a jerk just to get her interest back up? she loves the challenge, the chase, the drama, not you. better to move on.
 
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If she loves you but is bored then you can turn things around by stoking the fires of attraction. That starts at being less boring yourself which is affected by not being so available as was posted above. Another is to read up on how to pass sh!t tests. That alone can make things change considerably. Read this for more info:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/relationship-game-week-a-readers-journey/
 
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Nutz said:
If she loves you but is bored then you can turn things around by stoking the fires of attraction. That starts at being less boring yourself which is affected by not being so available as was posted above. Another is to read up on how to pass sh!t tests. That alone can make things change considerably. Read this for more info:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/relationship-game-week-a-readers-journey/
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Yes, she does love me. and i know, she wouldnt bear the thought of me dumping her ! She's just bored of everything around her !
Thanks for the link wil check that out !
 
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your only currency is the fact that you control her access to your time and attention

tina turner said it best "what's love got to do with it"

be aware that women typically avoid doing the breaking up. they prefer to be dumped so that they can get sympathy and attention from their peers

many women instead send "break up with me" signals but most guys are oblivious so we stay in the relationship way too long
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Thanks for replying Aaron.

Well, actually she does not want to dump me, neither does she wants to get dumped. I know her very well, and one more reason y i say so is, she wudnt have cried up to tell me "please dont leave me, i cannot live without u" !!
Had a nice-decent chat with her recently. She's kinda bored of the present life-situation, she actually doesnt have any interest in anything these days..
I guess, i need to take her on a nice-holiday to cheer up her mood !!
 
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