That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
TheEnergizer said:is it that you cant stay motivated or that youre scared of making a major sudden change in front of everyone you know?
because becoming the awesomest, funniest guy to walk the halls of your high school should be motivation in of itself. dont you want that guy to be you? do you really wanna keep going down the same crappy road youre going down now? im guessing no, and you thats why you want to change. so that part shouldnt be a problem.
if its that youre scared of what people will think and how they will react when you suddenly make a major change to be the guy you always dreamed you were and actually have it in you to become, from the boring average guy you used to be, then i can help you with that. i went through the same thing. i too am a good-looking guy with a lot going for me career-wise, etc. i had a lot of potential, i was just afraid to turn that 'potential energy' into 'kinetic energy' at first. i was already a certain way, and i knew i could easily change into something amazing, i was just afraid of how people would react if i did so too fast. they wouldnt expect it. i finally did it though, and if you need it, i can help you with that.