"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Getting Motivated

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Whats up guys, I really wanna change my life. I know im a good looking guy that has alot going for him career and passion wise. The problem is my social anxiety. I wanna stand up and stand out , but the problem is that I have a hard time staying motivated. Do you experienced DJs have your own methods to stay motivated to go 100 percent every day.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Write "field reports." Make it a daily thing. You don't need to post them anywhere, but just write down what you did well and what you did badly during the day, every day, until it becomes a habit. Every once in a while, come up with a new routine or something and learn it. Always be improving yourself, and expanding your horizons; the field reports will help you see your progress.



The key to keeping yourself motivated is to keep yourself interested in what you are doing, and the way to keep yourself interested is to always be trying to gain a deeper understanding and appreciation of your subject matter.

It is frustrating at first, just like any new activity when you are still learning the ropes, but once you begin to see your own progress, you will have no trouble staying motivated, because you will continually want to get better at what you are doing.
 

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I do! lol

FIRST! be damn proud of yourself! don't be ****y... don't be stuck up... but be proud of yourself and who you are, stand strong, it's a huge boost to motivation knowing people like you when your being exactly yourself. Don't listen to the music everyone else is, listen to the stuff you like just be yourself and don't be ashamed.. It's not easy but damn it helps.

Second! Set out exactly what you want, and don't lower your goals just because you think you can't do it.

Third! Make a great start to the day... don't be tired and complain jump out of bed! make your favorite breakfast, put on your favorite music and as loud as you like it (and make sure its not sad music) have a shower in the morning... feel good and look good with a full stomach. Smile smile smile... life is good! say hello to everyone. with a morning like that nothing can go wrong. take everything one step at a time, and if it's sh!t laugh it off.

For me i drive to school with my sounds way loud, i stop off at the supermarket and grab the drink i love that everyone hates, i roll up to school with the confidence to burn and a smile to kill lol.... Just being myself, and no one else would have me any other way... it takes time to realise this it's not easy but when you do, you only have way to much motivation
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is it that you cant stay motivated or that youre scared of making a major sudden change in front of everyone you know?

because becoming the awesomest, funniest guy to walk the halls of your high school should be motivation in of itself. dont you want that guy to be you? do you really wanna keep going down the same crappy road youre going down now? im guessing no, and you thats why you want to change. so that part shouldnt be a problem.

if its that youre scared of what people will think and how they will react when you suddenly make a major change to be the guy you always dreamed you were and actually have it in you to become, from the boring average guy you used to be, then i can help you with that. i went through the same thing. i too am a good-looking guy with a lot going for me career-wise, etc. i had a lot of potential, i was just afraid to turn that 'potential energy' into 'kinetic energy' at first. i was already a certain way, and i knew i could easily change into something amazing, i was just afraid of how people would react if i did so too fast. they wouldnt expect it. i finally did it though, and if you need it, i can help you with that.
 

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You are right that every body has there own way to be motivated for a ling time. Every one has that problem that they are motivated for a particular period of time.What I used to do is I always tell my self some motivational things and I had a lot's posters which I read and start my day with a lot of positive way. I hope this will help you.
 

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TheEnergizer said:
is it that you cant stay motivated or that youre scared of making a major sudden change in front of everyone you know?

because becoming the awesomest, funniest guy to walk the halls of your high school should be motivation in of itself. dont you want that guy to be you? do you really wanna keep going down the same crappy road youre going down now? im guessing no, and you thats why you want to change. so that part shouldnt be a problem.

if its that youre scared of what people will think and how they will react when you suddenly make a major change to be the guy you always dreamed you were and actually have it in you to become, from the boring average guy you used to be, then i can help you with that. i went through the same thing. i too am a good-looking guy with a lot going for me career-wise, etc. i had a lot of potential, i was just afraid to turn that 'potential energy' into 'kinetic energy' at first. i was already a certain way, and i knew i could easily change into something amazing, i was just afraid of how people would react if i did so too fast. they wouldnt expect it. i finally did it though, and if you need it, i can help you with that.

I think you hit the nail right on the head, I am always worried about what people think. I would love to change but its easier said than done. very good information
 
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