"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Getting more sexual with my girlfriend

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My girlfriend (9/10) and I have only been together for about a week now. Each time we get together we make out for 2-3 hours. Each night we also get more and more sexual with each other. Tonight she gave me a handjob and made me *** from it. This is the second time. I whispered in her ear while she was doing it that I would get so turned on even more if she went down on me. She responded that she would but she's not ready yet.

She dry humps me all the time. Like she straddle me and ride me like we were having sex, but then she'll just rub her ***** all over me and i'll hold her steady while i thrust up and she moans like crazy.

She's also afraid to take off her bra. I'll get her naked down to her bra and panties but she's like "not ready" to get fully naked with me yet. I went down on her the other night and she seemed to really enjoy it, but then she stopped me midway through and told me that if I continued she'd "get alittle crazy".

She's driving me nuts man. I want to hit it so badly, but each time she says she's not ready I respond with "Thats ok, I can respect that" followed by more making out.

Do you think that she isn't ready because we've only been together for a week or two. And i've only know her for a month now. And how long do you think that it'll take for her to wanna screw?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ASD.. you need to disarm it. Some girls are harder than others. Perhaps she's the more conservative type. There are a few ways to disarm it:

1) Say "I understand" and go back to making out, when you get her hot and bothered start trying to go further again. When her arousal supersedes her sense of morals, she will succumb.

2) Start ignoring her, and stop any physical act with her altogether. This will drive her crazy and she'll think that you're not happy because of her ASD, and she will remove it. This doesn't work on certain girls though, you just have to watch out.

3) Tell her that neither of you will tell anyone, nobody has to know and it's perfectly fine. Just convince her on the bed.
 
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Two steps forward, one step back. :)

After a week, you've already been jerked off and gone down on her. I'd say that's decent progress. :D
 
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Originally posted by Walden
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C'mon dude honestly. Why does everyone on this forum say "next" when the slightest problem with a girl comes up? We can all pretend we get dozens and dozens of girls but if you next at the slightest problem instead of trying to work around it, you'll be a very lonely person.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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alboh, i think he was kidding...

1 week and you have gotten that far with her? what the hell do you expect? it took me a month with my current gf and now we bang all the time. just keep playing it cool and respecting her wishes and she will eventually give in.

whenever a girl stops my sexual advances i just say, "that's cool no problem..."

have you ever heard of the "wanting it tax?"

a glass of water in a dry dessert could sell for $100, while you couldn't get someone to give you a penny for it in your house.

the more you want something, the more a person who has it will value it. if you act completely cool and not needy, they will often GIVE you what you desire.
 
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I even was with a girl that would put up the same **** EVERY SINGLE TIME even though wed already had sex.... She was too afraid of commitments, going into a common pattern or anything like that... So things had to be spontaneous, not to often, and alot of other **** like ASD ASD ASD ASD ASD ASD... But the sex was so good so I just used her for good sex and others for ONS :p
 
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Don't next her. I'd play phychiatrist, ask her about why, what, where, when, how... she would like to have sex.

Also - don't just go to a room and make out. Go and do stuff together.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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**UPDATES**

Last night we made out again, she came over and made me macaroni and cheese. Then we made out for a few hours. I went down on her for awhile and she was so wet and she really tasted good! YES! She loved it and eventually just said "**** IT" and we finally had sex last night. I figured that once I got some ***** that i wouldn't be horny for awhlie, but no it just made me want her more.

/smiles
 
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