Getting it back together (could use tips)

[Formertopdog8945]

Guys, I'm 27 years old now. I probably never have been a "happy guy" since that's not really my nature. At least I was a seductive guy, though I had numerous opportunities I didn't want to capitalize on in high school, sometimes I would anyway because I couldn't help it and my reputation wouldn't suffer as a consequence (mid sized school). Anyway, my capability was fairly potent being compulsive, brash, handsome and competitive.

I'm 27 now, I'm on my own in the city gaining professional experience before turning back to the hometown. I've been single for 3 years and the vagina I have had since has been anything but what any self respecting guy wants and we aren't talking many females here either.

I hardly know anyone, for me? Facebook has been horrifically useless for any game unless the move has been made on me first (can anyone relate?).

Where I think I've improved, which I have, is aesthetics, but, it's like I'm stuck here and oddly enough where it didn't even matter to me in my teens!!! Yes, people are settling down at around our age, but, I'm neither overweight nor too shabby at my age still. What's the beef? I don't know many people out here, I know had I been 18 to 20 yo I wouldn't have cared!! Did college brainwash me? Relationships too debilitating over time?

I want to start cold approaching again, but the dynamics should be correct so that the outcome is in my favor. Any tips???

 

[cola]

Skip cold approaching. You need to make friends. What city and state are you in?

 

[Formertopdog8945]

I really truly like what you're saying cola, it lets me know I'm actually not far off the mark. Yes, I have friends and a decent buddy with a lot of girlfriends because he's super social, I'm in Washington DC, man...

What this really goes back to is the whole aesthetics thing, I'm actually more symmetrical than I was in the past only there's this undying urge that I make sure I have all my ducks in a row before taking off... Yes, my buddy's place is an open invite and there really are many different girls in and out weekly just kicking back

 

[cola]

Ok, Im in Baltimore so 45 minutes away from you.

DCSocialsports.com <-- Gold Mine. Its Coed sports and its always drinking afterwards they usually give the teams coupons to bars. You are guarenteed to make new friends/get laid, especially if you are semi athletic and can lead the team.

http://salsawithsilvia.com/ <-- gold mine. Dance class with women. Mostly single.

BaltimoreSocial.com <-- Same as DC social but in Baltimore. 45 minutes away from you.


http://www.thestudiodc.com/<-- best yoga class in DC. Hot girls doing yoga, bootys bent over in your face and believe it or not yoga is great. You can meet new girls here and it will introduce you to meditation. Which I strongly advocate

You are also more than welcome to come to Baltimore and turn up with me. Just lmk in advance. I know all the spots.

• Cold Approach is an outdated concept. Its best benefit now is getting rid of anxiety talking to girls. Once you are past that stage its not neccissary. Mass cold approaching is low value behavior. You can cold approach once in a while when you are getting strong indicators of interest but it shouldn't be the main staple of your diet. Especially at our age.

If you perfect body language, get your **** in order finances, get fit etc you wont have to cold approach. Women will gravitate to you like a fly on ****.
Being alpha/confident yet approachable.. thats the key. A humble confidence with a nice body and some resources.

 

[Formertopdog8945]

Ok, Im in Baltimore so 45 minutes away from you.

DCSocialsports.com <-- Gold Mine. Its Coed sports and its always drinking afterwards they usually give the teams coupons to bars. You are guarenteed to make new friends/get laid, especially if you are semi athletic and can lead the team.

http://salsawithsilvia.com/ <-- gold mine. Dance class with women. Mostly single.

BaltimoreSocial.com <-- Same as DC social but in Baltimore. 45 minutes away from you.


http://www.thestudiodc.com/<-- best yoga class in DC. Hot girls doing yoga, bootys bent over in your face and believe it or not yoga is great. You can meet new girls here and it will introduce you to meditation. Which I strongly advocate

You are also more than welcome to come to Baltimore and turn up with me. Just lmk in advance. I know all the spots.

• Cold Approach is an outdated concept. Its best benefit now is getting rid of anxiety talking to girls. Once you are past that stage its not neccissary. Mass cold approaching is low value behavior. You can cold approach once in a while when you are getting strong indicators of interest but it shouldn't be the main staple of your diet. Especially at our age.

If you perfect body language, get your **** in order finances, get fit etc you wont have to cold approach. Women will gravitate to you like a fly on ****.
Being alpha/confident yet approachable.. thats the key. A humble confidence with a nice body and some resources.

Man. Pure GOLD! I will be checking these things out!!! My buddies are actually at Towson not far from Penn Station, I'll be in touch with you

 

[RangerMIke]

Cold approach is not a method. It's what you do if you are out and about and happen to run into a woman you are attracted to. You shouldn't go out and say "I'm doing cold approach", it's only what you have to do otherwise you'll never see her again. You do it because regret of inaction is worst than rejection.
My success with cold approach isn't that great. What happens is you get approach signals from women that are not available, they do this because that is the hypergamic nature of women... they just can not help it, when they are out and about they just aren't thinking and their emotions just send out signals.

In social settings women who are not available are careful about the signals they send out. SO with cold approach, I get shot down A LOT by women with BFs and husbands, even though the BL they have is signaling availability.

@cola Is right, find something you like to do that has women and go do that. Yoga is the best, not only will you meet women, but your health and flexibility will improve. It's 80% women and they are all nice looking. I Also meet woman at business network events, Chambers of Commerce et. al. Lot's of high quality professional women at these events.

 

[TheGambino]

Go to the gym, take care of yourself, work hard, get up early and talk to women everywhere. Just ask them questions and let them brapppp about themselves. Keep up the convo by listening good and asking more questions. If she is willing to tell you a lot about herself she is probably willing to have drinks with you. Keep the convo light and simple and get used to rejections.

 

[Formertopdog8945]

Ok, Im in Baltimore so 45 minutes away from you.

DCSocialsports.com <-- Gold Mine. Its Coed sports and its always drinking afterwards they usually give the teams coupons to bars. You are guarenteed to make new friends/get laid, especially if you are semi athletic and can lead the team.

http://salsawithsilvia.com/ <-- gold mine. Dance class with women. Mostly single.

BaltimoreSocial.com <-- Same as DC social but in Baltimore. 45 minutes away from you.


http://www.thestudiodc.com/<-- best yoga class in DC. Hot girls doing yoga, bootys bent over in your face and believe it or not yoga is great. You can meet new girls here and it will introduce you to meditation. Which I strongly advocate

You are also more than welcome to come to Baltimore and turn up with me. Just lmk in advance. I know all the spots.

• Cold Approach is an outdated concept. Its best benefit now is getting rid of anxiety talking to girls. Once you are past that stage its not neccissary. Mass cold approaching is low value behavior. You can cold approach once in a while when you are getting strong indicators of interest but it shouldn't be the main staple of your diet. Especially at our age.

If you perfect body language, get your **** in order finances, get fit etc you wont have to cold approach. Women will gravitate to you like a fly on ****.
Being alpha/confident yet approachable.. thats the key. A humble confidence with a nice body and some resources.

Man, straight knowledge. I came to the right place 8-10 years later! My buddy is actually at Towson Colony near Baltimore Penn and presumably not far from you. I wouldn't wanna cramp your style man lol but I'm grateful as **** for your invite. I've been around long enough to know what you're saying is very true, so, I'm gonna run with it