Getting into shape - did it help?

[evan12]

Anyone in the mature forum who got into significantly better shape after the age of 25 and noticed improved reactions from females?

I have never had issues getting girls, but have had a dadbod since the age of ~26 (before that I wasn’t in a super shape). I have now been going to the gym consistently for 3 months and gotten myself a PT. The LBs are shedding very quickly, but am finding it hard to keep up motivation as my day job is very draining (14hr+ workdays).. so am looking for some motivation from mature people who turned their body around and - hopefully - experienced material improvements in reactions from people around them.

Being in shape as a man is one of the untold things, since in the past men were measured by bravery and strength, I lost many years of my life because I was out of shape , women attention increase proportionally with your body and face look .

 

[Zimbabwe]

Unless you were super fat or skinny before, it won't make much of a difference. I still get the same kind of matches even though I look and dress better.

 

[European-DJ]

Unless you were super fat or skinny before, it won't make much of a difference. I still get the same kind of matches even though I look and dress better.

Interesting. Would have thought it would make a material difference based on comments off other sites (predominantly Reddit)

 

[IKO69]

Interesting. Would have thought it would make a material difference based on comments off other sites (predominantly Reddit)

It does make a big difference. Women just don't express their interest in the way a lot of guys in the street do when they see a hot girl - they start hollering and acting like cornballs. When you get really fit you will notice an increase in getting checked out. You'll notice women look at you and smile more etc.

When sexy time is about to happen or after you been with them, that's when they start telling you how they like your physique etc.

If a good physique (overall good looks) didn't matter Chippendales wouldn't be a thing. Look at what those guys look like - they aren't balding pot bellied guys.

 

[Slowhandluke]

If a good physique (overall good looks) didn't matter Chippendales wouldn't be a thing. Look at what those guys look like - they aren't balding pot bellied guys.

As a guy it's hard for me to find other guys attractive. I have to remind myself that chippendale models are hot. That's what a lot of women look for. So yeah, getting into shape helps. I think it's 60-70% of a man's overall attractiveness. If a guy isn't classically attractive, he will still be able to find someone if he's charismatic, have the "right personality" that a particular girl likes, etc..

Physical attractiveness isn't the be all, end all for women; but it sure does help with initial attraction. And now that I think of it, since "flirting with a girl" or "chasing" a girl is somewhat fraught with danger - you know what they say, "it's only sexual harassment if they don't find you attractive". hahahaha... better to be more attractive.

Back in the day, you could be average and chase women; you could slowly make her like you, but the times have change. Talk to older married couples. A lot of times the wife did not initially find the husbands attractive at all. Now women are being told, if an average man flirts with her who she does not find attractive, that's sexual harassments. She listens to this, and look... the marriage rate is in decline... LTR are in decline. Oh well...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

To a degree...but nowhere near what some would have you believe on here. And I was in elite shape at my peak.

 

[Borknagar]

Anyone in the mature forum who got into significantly better shape after the age of 25 and noticed improved reactions from females?

I have never had issues getting girls, but have had a dadbod since the age of ~26 (before that I wasn’t in a super shape). I have now been going to the gym consistently for 3 months and gotten myself a PT. The LBs are shedding very quickly, but am finding it hard to keep up motivation as my day job is very draining (14hr+ workdays).. so am looking for some motivation from mature people who turned their body around and - hopefully - experienced material improvements in reactions from people around them.

Yeah man. When I was about 28 I lost a bunch of weight but still was too shy and still had the same mindset but at least I started getting the occasional chick but I had zero game so any action I got was mostly because of my new looks and pure luck. About a year after I started working out and shortly after I got in the best shape of my life a super hot women went home with me from the bar. It was crazy. Her friends tried to take her away while she was sitting on my lap and she kept shooing them away. It was nuts. and I just stood there not knowing what I was supposed to do. hahaha But yes, it will make a difference. Mine was pretty extreme though. 6'2 300lb dropped down to 215lb.

 

[European-DJ]

Yeah man. When I was about 28 I lost a bunch of weight but still was too shy and still had the same mindset but at least I started getting the occasional chick but I had zero game so any action I got was mostly because of my new looks and pure luck. About a year after I started working out and shortly after I got in the best shape of my life a super hot women went home with me from the bar. It was crazy. Her friends tried to take her away while she was sitting on my lap and she kept shooing them away. It was nuts. and I just stood there not knowing what I was supposed to do. hahaha But yes, it will make a difference. Mine was pretty extreme though. 6'2 300lb dropped down to 215lb.

extreme or not, this is the kind of post that I find motivating.

 

[Borknagar]

If you're chubby it will make a difference. The so called PUAs who claim looks don't matter at just trying to get AFCs to send them money. Looks matter, a lot. No joke. You aren't getting even a 5+ if you're fat(like 30%+ fat )and generally that's the truth. Now you can occasionally get some action but it will be very uncommon. Looks matter, for real.