Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Getting into arguments with all the girls I meet

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It's a lot easier to give up on personality expectations and just go for pvssy. When a woman starts telling me that she is an empowered feminist, I will nod my head and agree. You go girl! But the whole time I am thinking about all the degrading things I am about to do to her in the bedroom just because she told me she was a feminist.

If you can have that attitude, you will have a lot more fun, and it will not be the negative experience that you are having right now. That will keep you in the game, until eventually you do meet the girl with the right personality for you. Don't force that. Just keep getting laid and wait for it to happen.
So you want me to put the ***** on a pedestal by being a yes man? Doesn't that contradict everything we say
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So you want me to put the ***** on a pedestal by being a yes man? Doesn't that contradict everything we say
no but arguing doesn't get you laid

being a yes man doesn't either, so you have to find a balance
 

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So you want me to put the ***** on a pedestal by being a yes man? Doesn't that contradict everything we say
In sales, you tell the prospect what they need to hear in order to close the deal. And maybe you missed the "degrading things" comment, but I don't exactly think that is pedestalizing. I fvcked a girl in my back yard today, mostly because she told me she wouldn't ever do such a thing.
 

fastlife

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Nailed it.


I'll go a step further and say why argue with anyone? Usually when you engage in an argument, both sides are entering it unwilling to relinquish their perspective/opinion. (Of course assuming these arguments are heated or those involved are listening to reply rather than listening to understand and refute)

There are people who are actually capable stimulating you intellectually and test your critical thinking without provoking a negative emotional response, and vice-versa. I would consider these more as playful debates than arguments.

There's a difference between a argument and a disagreement.

At the end of the day, arguing is always a choice. You either provoke someone or you allow yourself to be provoked. I've been in a relationship for over 2 years and have never argued with my girlfriend once and never will, simply because I choose not to.
Agreed. My scope was a little too limited.

Most arguments are totally avoidable.
 

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..... I'm just looking for a down to earth cool chick to have fun with, not some over analyzing girl. This is the 5th time attracting these type of girls on POF
Speak no further. Learning 'red pill' and 'reading all the books' and then wasting your time on POF women?:confused:

Get out in the real world, and meet some real women.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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