"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Getting into arguments with all the girls I meet

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It's a lot easier to give up on personality expectations and just go for pvssy. When a woman starts telling me that she is an empowered feminist, I will nod my head and agree. You go girl! But the whole time I am thinking about all the degrading things I am about to do to her in the bedroom just because she told me she was a feminist.

If you can have that attitude, you will have a lot more fun, and it will not be the negative experience that you are having right now. That will keep you in the game, until eventually you do meet the girl with the right personality for you. Don't force that. Just keep getting laid and wait for it to happen.
So you want me to put the ***** on a pedestal by being a yes man? Doesn't that contradict everything we say
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So you want me to put the ***** on a pedestal by being a yes man? Doesn't that contradict everything we say
no but arguing doesn't get you laid

being a yes man doesn't either, so you have to find a balance
 

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So you want me to put the ***** on a pedestal by being a yes man? Doesn't that contradict everything we say
In sales, you tell the prospect what they need to hear in order to close the deal. And maybe you missed the "degrading things" comment, but I don't exactly think that is pedestalizing. I fvcked a girl in my back yard today, mostly because she told me she wouldn't ever do such a thing.
 

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Nailed it.


I'll go a step further and say why argue with anyone? Usually when you engage in an argument, both sides are entering it unwilling to relinquish their perspective/opinion. (Of course assuming these arguments are heated or those involved are listening to reply rather than listening to understand and refute)

There are people who are actually capable stimulating you intellectually and test your critical thinking without provoking a negative emotional response, and vice-versa. I would consider these more as playful debates than arguments.

There's a difference between a argument and a disagreement.

At the end of the day, arguing is always a choice. You either provoke someone or you allow yourself to be provoked. I've been in a relationship for over 2 years and have never argued with my girlfriend once and never will, simply because I choose not to.
Agreed. My scope was a little too limited.

Most arguments are totally avoidable.
 

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..... I'm just looking for a down to earth cool chick to have fun with, not some over analyzing girl. This is the 5th time attracting these type of girls on POF
Speak no further. Learning 'red pill' and 'reading all the books' and then wasting your time on POF women?:confused:

Get out in the real world, and meet some real women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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