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Hi all,

Here's the deal: I want this girl, badly. She's HB 8, very cute and we have some pretty good chemistry.

She broke with her boyfriend, not because of me but according to her, he was so damn pushy.

Our relationship is pretty cool. You know, pretending we're boyfriends...she goes ''you're handsome...cool..beautiful...i want you so bad'', and I say the same. Not serious in all times..you know. Just some ''playing conversation'', joking sometimes.

Yesterday morning...I opened my heart to her, said that I like ker and if we have some chances in future. She said she likes me very much...but now..she needs some space, after breaking with her boyfriend. She said in future who knows...because we have some chemistry.

A curious thing...she sees me as the ''guy that go with every girls'', you know..she doesn't like those fast relationships. I said...that I'm not this guy and bla, bla,bla.

On afternoon...we didn't talk too much but we had some eyes connection but her eyes were different to me...like thinking in something else.

What behaviour should I have to get this girl? Ignoring her...showing her that I'm busy....or being pushy as I was...I think that I was a bit boring with all that conversation, quite lame.

Your opinion..
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I'm pretty sure she's a decent girl, but don't pay too much attention to what she says. She wants you around her because it makes her feel good about herself, that's pretty much it.

As for your situation, and what you can do to get out of the friendzone you've put yourself into: you need to make a move, and you need to make a move fast. Whether or not she agreed you two had chemistry is irrelevant, you need to act like there is chemistry and always has been. Ask her on a date, be flirtatious, do the C&F thing, get some kino going, and then if you read IL signs on her part you'll know you're doing good.

All that being said, I believe that the most important advice you can receive right now is to stop putting so much attention in this one girl. Are you dating other girls? are you even seeing other girls in your life? shall things not work out with this one, are you done and totally out of options?

Set yourself some objectives and stop thinking so damn much -- start doing what you want to do. Don't pretend you're busy, but actually be busy!

Come back to us when you'll have had a date -- or when she'll have rejected you. Either way, you're better off than what you have right now.

-Bill
 

The Juan and only

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I opened my heart to her
oh dear....that was a mistake. I hate to be negative but this situation doesn't sound good.

she needs some space, after breaking with her boyfriend
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I wouldn't put too much faith in that statement if I were you.


I would say more but I'm tired and Bill pretty much covered it.
 
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Firstly, thanks for your replies.

@ The Juan and only. Yeah...pretty stupid of myself. I gave her all the power...meaning that I'm after her. Any tip to overcome situation?


All that being said, I believe that the most important advice you can receive right now is to stop putting so much attention in this one girl. Are you dating other girls? are you even seeing other girls in your life? shall things not work out with this one, are you done and totally out of options?
Yeah, there are some girls that I can go after but this is one is special, you know...

Maybe some ignoring on her should do fine...:confused: :p :eek:
 

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Originally posted by Hot? Naa!
Yeah, there are some girls that I can go after but this is one is special, you know...
Why is she special?
Is she your girlfriend?
 

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Nope. But we've a lot in common, she's funny, pretty...a lovely girl. :)
 
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