I have quite a few girls on facebook that I first talked to, then added as a friend or they added me, and I was wondering what a good way to get an email address and/or number from them using the facebook. I don't know them all very well, and most I haven't even messaged on facebook.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Getting her email or number using facebook
- Thread starter Eiljwa
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
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Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Well i suppose you could start by actually speaking to them?? Then ask for their numbers after you've exchanged a few posts...thats if you're still interested.
Craig Reeves
Master Don Juan
Why exactly are you trying to get phone numbers and emails from these girls?Eiljwa said:I have quite a few girls on facebook that I first talked to, then added as a friend or they added me, and I was wondering what a good way to get an email address and/or number from them using the facebook. I don't know them all very well, and most I haven't even messaged on facebook.
WC2
Master Don Juan
I think maybe you need to spend a little less time on facebook and more time out talking to women.
Wow...I spend literally like 5 mins a week if that on Facebook. I pretty sure that was implied. I don't message people or really do anything, I was just thinking it might help a little. What kind of things would you message? Just normal, "What's up" and all that jazz?
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War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
One of my friends back in high school when he saw a girl he was interested in (he's black but had a fetish for small asians) would make sure that she would know what he looks like. He would find her myspace and then message something like "Hey I see you around school...." and some other stuff like that. Surprisingly he was really successful at this. The key is to gather up enough interest level that she'll be comfortable giving you her number/AIM/email whatever. I've made the mistake of asking prematurely that axed the interaction pretty early.
You have no idea how many guys resort to asking a girl for their number on Facebook because they don't have the balls to do it in real life. Don't waste your time. If you want to stand apart from the crowd, ask her for her number next time you see her.
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So what you're saying is that the ones I will never see again, unless I do something about it, aren't worth wasting my time. I have been working on game with girls at school (college), but most guys on here say that Facebook or Myspace are a good resource, of course only to be used at the same time we are gaming girls in real life.young_gun said:You have no idea how many guys resort to asking a girl for their number on Facebook because they don't have the balls to do it in real life. Don't waste your time. If you want to stand apart from the crowd, ask her for her number next time you see her.
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Isn't that the point of getting their numbers? So you can hang with 'em in person?WC2 said:I think maybe you need to spend a little less time on facebook and more time out talking to women.
MacAvoy
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there is a thread in anything else forum on how to pick up w/ Facebook, look there
Well, I suppose it couldn't hurt if you won't see them again and that's your only resource for getting in touch with them. What I was referring to was girls that you see on at least a semi-frequent basis and asking them for their number on Facebook. I know a lot of guys that do that. Don't. LOLEiljwa said:So what you're saying is that the ones I will never see again, unless I do something about it, aren't worth wasting my time. I have been working on game with girls at school (college), but most guys on here say that Facebook or Myspace are a good resource, of course only to be used at the same time we are gaming girls in real life.
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Don't do this. I have a friend (girl) who literally collects messages like these from guys. She showed me them once. There are just a ton of AFC guys saying things like "Mind if we get to know each other better?"
If you already know the chicks it's different. Find a way to flirt with them with a wall post or a message. Bust on them for something they've written in their wall post or something about their picture. Make sure it's funny and whitty so you stand out form the other guys who are posting on her wall.
I actually think I have perfected this tactic. Just flirt via a wall post and escalate into getting her number through messages.
If you already know the chicks it's different. Find a way to flirt with them with a wall post or a message. Bust on them for something they've written in their wall post or something about their picture. Make sure it's funny and whitty so you stand out form the other guys who are posting on her wall.
I actually think I have perfected this tactic. Just flirt via a wall post and escalate into getting her number through messages.
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Easy.
Invite them to a party. You will accomplish so many things: a) get to hang out with her b) have fun with her at the party c) get her drunk d) get her number e) get to meet her friends so in case she doesnt work out her friends might f) get her friends drunk g) well you see the pattern?
Invite them to a party. You will accomplish so many things: a) get to hang out with her b) have fun with her at the party c) get her drunk d) get her number e) get to meet her friends so in case she doesnt work out her friends might f) get her friends drunk g) well you see the pattern?
I dont "ask" for any numbers. I tell them to give me the numbers, but in a decent way.
Try:
"I'm not really into this whole chatting thing, why don't you give me your number so we can talk like normal people"
Try:
"I'm not really into this whole chatting thing, why don't you give me your number so we can talk like normal people"
ezily
Senior Don Juan
Yeah I used to be on facebook and thought about (but never actually did) doing this. I wouldn't recommend it. Sending messages over facebook, even to girls you know and are interested in, rarely works IMO. It would be fine if they're already into you and you've talked to them in person but since you want to do this to random girls I would advise against it. It just makes you seem lame.
Granted you theoretically have nothing to lose but what if you run into this girl one day or she is a friend of one of your friends? I wouldn't risk it. Just try to meet people in person.
But it's up to you. I would try to meet a girl in person first and then use facebook. Hopefully SHE adds you as a friend. That way you have a much better shot at getting somewhere. But just beware that an attractive girl will have guys talking to her in person. So you're at a disadvantage if you only use the internet. The guys who get her number and stuff in person will seem way more confident.
Granted you theoretically have nothing to lose but what if you run into this girl one day or she is a friend of one of your friends? I wouldn't risk it. Just try to meet people in person.
But it's up to you. I would try to meet a girl in person first and then use facebook. Hopefully SHE adds you as a friend. That way you have a much better shot at getting somewhere. But just beware that an attractive girl will have guys talking to her in person. So you're at a disadvantage if you only use the internet. The guys who get her number and stuff in person will seem way more confident.
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