OK guys I've lost her before. but got her back. Lost her again, a few weeks has gone by. I'm thinking a few weeks from now might be time to start getting her back. Am I in the right forum to begin discussing this? I've been in ones were people swear up and down it can't be done. but i did it. Anybody think they can help me out? Its one thing to get her back. I'm wondering if its another thing to get her back again.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Getting her back
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I've been there, done that. I've gotten her back, lost her, now she wants me back again, but I have had a lot of other girls since then, and now I'm not that interested in taking her back. Go have a lot of other girls.
Bible
I have un finished business with this one. In the bedroom. We've had sex and I've given her orgasms. the sex gets better every time. the more she feels comfortable with me. but she has the ability to squirt and I haven't seen that yet. Ofcourse there is more to then that. I care about her and all that. But I'm not afraid to admit the alterior motive. Don't worry I'm not counting other women out. So We dated over the summer. She hated me after that. over the holidays we started dating again for two months. now she hates me again. doesn't this sound like a great challenge to get her bzk and make her squirt?
I have un finished business with this one. In the bedroom. We've had sex and I've given her orgasms. the sex gets better every time. the more she feels comfortable with me. but she has the ability to squirt and I haven't seen that yet. Ofcourse there is more to then that. I care about her and all that. But I'm not afraid to admit the alterior motive. Don't worry I'm not counting other women out. So We dated over the summer. She hated me after that. over the holidays we started dating again for two months. now she hates me again. doesn't this sound like a great challenge to get her bzk and make her squirt?
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MacAvoy
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Its been talked about a million times on the site, its the most common theme.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SharinganUser
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Why don't you just repeat what you did before to get her back?
Also it isn't a matter of can you get her back, its a matter of should you get her back. Short answer: NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Also it isn't a matter of can you get her back, its a matter of should you get her back. Short answer: NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Agreed. If you are chasing her for the challenge... well, there are thousands of women willing to give you a challenge (and sex).SharinganUser said:
Yet, I think you are chasing her because she validates your worth. You are being manipulated by her. You think "I got her back!", when in reality, she came back to you on her own terms. She will play you to the end... only you can decide when that end is. Now? or when she has another man that holds her attention more?
This is the only thing that will save you from the hellstorm you are about to experience.
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Actually when we got back to gether I wasn't even interested at the time. she persued me for a bout two weeks. i now what your gonna say. then just create that atmosphere again. I guess I was just wondering if the same thing would work a second time around. Or if i needed to go from a differnt angle this time. don't worry i'm keeping myself occupied while shes not around. anyays any other coments?
Actually when we got back to gether I wasn't even interested at the time. she persued me for a bout two weeks. i now what your gonna say. then just create that atmosphere again. I guess I was just wondering if the same thing would work a second time around. Or if i needed to go from a differnt angle this time. don't worry i'm keeping myself occupied while shes not around. anyays any other coments?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
MacAvoy
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If it works, don't fix it.sosilky said:
sosilky said:
This is what sounds concerning to me. I think deep down, you've got more feelings for her and you really want to let her know how you feel now. However she pulled the classic, I want you back so I can have the last word and leave you thinking about me so I can string you along as an orbiter from now on move.
Scroll through 5-10 pages and look at all the threads asking about getting ex's back or do a search.
DonGorgon
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sosilky said:
Get a new woman and use this one for sex only.. only then she will start wanting you back too..
MacAvoy
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I'd say consciously even though its probably partially subconsciously. They don't start out that way, when they get dumped, they are genuinely hurt. So they do whats natural, suck the guy back in, however in reality, the relationship was sh1t because she didn't like him that much anymore. So then she goes into move forward mode and then dumps him, thus thereby ridding herself of her hurt feelings.
Its actually a good defensive mechanism for women.
Its actually a good defensive mechanism for women.
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Frankly I would just like to get her back again so i can nail her again and see her squirt. Maybe its time I gave you guys some background so we can figure what the best bate would be to get the ball rolling on her pursuing me?
Frankly I would just like to get her back again so i can nail her again and see her squirt. Maybe its time I gave you guys some background so we can figure what the best bate would be to get the ball rolling on her pursuing me?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MacAvoy
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Yea without the full story, we don't really know what to recommend.
Faded Image
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The class of 2008 is starting to look like the class of 2006.
MacAvoy
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and 2005, 2004 etc.....Faded Image said:
You can get her back once you GAL. Get a life. Once you're happy with yourself and don't need her for happiness, you will become interesting and a challenge. Attracting does much more than chasing will ever do.
You're not really giving much to go on, but that's my take on it.
You're not really giving much to go on, but that's my take on it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.