OK guys I've lost her before. but got her back. Lost her again, a few weeks has gone by. I'm thinking a few weeks from now might be time to start getting her back. Am I in the right forum to begin discussing this? I've been in ones were people swear up and down it can't be done. but i did it. Anybody think they can help me out? Its one thing to get her back. I'm wondering if its another thing to get her back again.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Getting her back
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I've been there, done that. I've gotten her back, lost her, now she wants me back again, but I have had a lot of other girls since then, and now I'm not that interested in taking her back. Go have a lot of other girls.
Bible
I have un finished business with this one. In the bedroom. We've had sex and I've given her orgasms. the sex gets better every time. the more she feels comfortable with me. but she has the ability to squirt and I haven't seen that yet. Ofcourse there is more to then that. I care about her and all that. But I'm not afraid to admit the alterior motive. Don't worry I'm not counting other women out. So We dated over the summer. She hated me after that. over the holidays we started dating again for two months. now she hates me again. doesn't this sound like a great challenge to get her bzk and make her squirt?
I have un finished business with this one. In the bedroom. We've had sex and I've given her orgasms. the sex gets better every time. the more she feels comfortable with me. but she has the ability to squirt and I haven't seen that yet. Ofcourse there is more to then that. I care about her and all that. But I'm not afraid to admit the alterior motive. Don't worry I'm not counting other women out. So We dated over the summer. She hated me after that. over the holidays we started dating again for two months. now she hates me again. doesn't this sound like a great challenge to get her bzk and make her squirt?
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MacAvoy
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Its been talked about a million times on the site, its the most common theme.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
SharinganUser
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Why don't you just repeat what you did before to get her back?
Also it isn't a matter of can you get her back, its a matter of should you get her back. Short answer: NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Also it isn't a matter of can you get her back, its a matter of should you get her back. Short answer: NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Agreed. If you are chasing her for the challenge... well, there are thousands of women willing to give you a challenge (and sex).SharinganUser said:
Yet, I think you are chasing her because she validates your worth. You are being manipulated by her. You think "I got her back!", when in reality, she came back to you on her own terms. She will play you to the end... only you can decide when that end is. Now? or when she has another man that holds her attention more?
This is the only thing that will save you from the hellstorm you are about to experience.
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Actually when we got back to gether I wasn't even interested at the time. she persued me for a bout two weeks. i now what your gonna say. then just create that atmosphere again. I guess I was just wondering if the same thing would work a second time around. Or if i needed to go from a differnt angle this time. don't worry i'm keeping myself occupied while shes not around. anyays any other coments?
Actually when we got back to gether I wasn't even interested at the time. she persued me for a bout two weeks. i now what your gonna say. then just create that atmosphere again. I guess I was just wondering if the same thing would work a second time around. Or if i needed to go from a differnt angle this time. don't worry i'm keeping myself occupied while shes not around. anyays any other coments?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
MacAvoy
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If it works, don't fix it.sosilky said:
sosilky said:
This is what sounds concerning to me. I think deep down, you've got more feelings for her and you really want to let her know how you feel now. However she pulled the classic, I want you back so I can have the last word and leave you thinking about me so I can string you along as an orbiter from now on move.
Scroll through 5-10 pages and look at all the threads asking about getting ex's back or do a search.
DonGorgon
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sosilky said:
Get a new woman and use this one for sex only.. only then she will start wanting you back too..
MacAvoy
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I'd say consciously even though its probably partially subconsciously. They don't start out that way, when they get dumped, they are genuinely hurt. So they do whats natural, suck the guy back in, however in reality, the relationship was sh1t because she didn't like him that much anymore. So then she goes into move forward mode and then dumps him, thus thereby ridding herself of her hurt feelings.
Its actually a good defensive mechanism for women.
Its actually a good defensive mechanism for women.
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Frankly I would just like to get her back again so i can nail her again and see her squirt. Maybe its time I gave you guys some background so we can figure what the best bate would be to get the ball rolling on her pursuing me?
Frankly I would just like to get her back again so i can nail her again and see her squirt. Maybe its time I gave you guys some background so we can figure what the best bate would be to get the ball rolling on her pursuing me?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MacAvoy
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Yea without the full story, we don't really know what to recommend.
Faded Image
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The class of 2008 is starting to look like the class of 2006.
MacAvoy
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and 2005, 2004 etc.....Faded Image said:
You can get her back once you GAL. Get a life. Once you're happy with yourself and don't need her for happiness, you will become interesting and a challenge. Attracting does much more than chasing will ever do.
You're not really giving much to go on, but that's my take on it.
You're not really giving much to go on, but that's my take on it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.