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wow that was amazing.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
GaryUranga said:then again Im good looking
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It's so funny. not because what he said doesnt work or does work... just cuz its a two year old thread and hes the poster... defending it still to this day.disciple said:^^^what he just said^^^
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
so heres the point.disciple said:Lately, there seems to be alot of discussion on HB10's and dimes and how to get your "dream girl".
Of course, what that dream girl is depends on your own tastes and preferences.
That being said, this is how you get a really attractive woman to chase you and also become the envy of all the guys in your Friday night chess club (hahaha!!!).
First off, understand that good looking chicks are so used to men bowing down to them and CHOOSING them automatically that they start to expect EVERY GUY to do this.
I once read that women are five times better at naturally reading body language than men are.
That's why 99% of the time a women can tell right away if a man has chosen her by reading his eyes or eye contact and his body language, not to mention the fact that most guys make their interest obvious through their behavior and also by the drool hanging from their mouths.
Girls who are exceptionally attractive automatically put 99% of the guys they meet or see into this huge category of male worshippers.
But when a man comes along that isn't fazed by her beauty (or booty) and DOES NOT CHOOSE her immediately because she looks good in some tight jeans, guess what happens?
She starts to wonder, "Why doesn't this guy just automatically choose me because I look good like all the rest"?
Now she is curious. She doesn't know anything about you(assuming you play it cool and remain mysterious). You become a puzzle that she has to solve.
She now becomes extremely insecure because her self-esteem is based on her looks and the approval she gets because of her looks but you don't seem to be fazed by that at all.
In her mind, she now has to "win you over" and gain your approval that she is indeed "gorgeous". Then her little world will be okay again.
So what happens next? She starts to CHASE YOU. You have now become a prize she "has" to win and a puzzle she has to "solve".
The great thing about this technique is that the better looking the chick, the better it works. Isn't that great?
Remember, the higher you are, the harder the fall. When you knock her off of that pedestal, she WILL fall hard. Fall hard for YOU, that is.
In my own experience, what usually happens is you'll catch her giving you sideways glances and sneak peeks although the bolder ones will give you plenty of strong, direct eye contact. Some will even approach you right away.
If your getting eye contact and any other choosing signs at this point, let the game begin.
Very often, the girl will find a way to "bump into you" or just happen to be in your area.
She may ask you a casual question like what time is it or sometimes the bolder ones will ask you what your name is or where you live or something.
Now, this is very important. When she starts asking you questions about yourself (remember your still a puzzle), don't do like most guys do and f*cking tell your life story.
Remember the mysterious thing?
Keep your answers brief and as short as possible and then turn the conversation back on her by asking your own questions based on little "seeds" of information she gives you.
Check out Allen Thompson's article on Conversating for Maximum Attraction in the Articles or Quick Tips section for more information.
You have to let the mystery of you unfold SLOWLY (then again, even if you dated her for 10 years you should still be hard to read and figure out).
I'll stop here, but of course there are more steps to getting from her initial interest to the bedroom but there's enough information in other posts and on the rest of this site for all of that.
"The strong rule the weak but the wise rule the strong." I'm out.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Stop the KBJ.disciple said:Lately, there seems to be alot of discussion on HB10's and dimes and how to get your "dream girl".
Of course, what that dream girl is depends on your own tastes and preferences.
That being said, this is how you get a really attractive woman to chase you and also become the envy of all the guys in your Friday night chess club (hahaha!!!).
First off, understand that good looking chicks are so used to men bowing down to them and CHOOSING them automatically that they start to expect EVERY GUY to do this.
I once read that women are five times better at naturally reading body language than men are.
That's why 99% of the time a women can tell right away if a man has chosen her by reading his eyes or eye contact and his body language, not to mention the fact that most guys make their interest obvious through their behavior and also by the drool hanging from their mouths.
Girls who are exceptionally attractive automatically put 99% of the guys they meet or see into this huge category of male worshippers.
But when a man comes along that isn't fazed by her beauty (or booty) and DOES NOT CHOOSE her immediately because she looks good in some tight jeans, guess what happens?
She starts to wonder, "Why doesn't this guy just automatically choose me because I look good like all the rest"?
Now she is curious. She doesn't know anything about you(assuming you play it cool and remain mysterious). You become a puzzle that she has to solve.
She now becomes extremely insecure because her self-esteem is based on her looks and the approval she gets because of her looks but you don't seem to be fazed by that at all.
In her mind, she now has to "win you over" and gain your approval that she is indeed "gorgeous". Then her little world will be okay again.
So what happens next? She starts to CHASE YOU. You have now become a prize she "has" to win and a puzzle she has to "solve".
The great thing about this technique is that the better looking the chick, the better it works. Isn't that great?
Remember, the higher you are, the harder the fall. When you knock her off of that pedestal, she WILL fall hard. Fall hard for YOU, that is.
In my own experience, what usually happens is you'll catch her giving you sideways glances and sneak peeks although the bolder ones will give you plenty of strong, direct eye contact. Some will even approach you right away.
If your getting eye contact and any other choosing signs at this point, let the game begin.
Very often, the girl will find a way to "bump into you" or just happen to be in your area.
She may ask you a casual question like what time is it or sometimes the bolder ones will ask you what your name is or where you live or something.
Now, this is very important. When she starts asking you questions about yourself (remember your still a puzzle), don't do like most guys do and f*cking tell your life story.
Remember the mysterious thing?
Keep your answers brief and as short as possible and then turn the conversation back on her by asking your own questions based on little "seeds" of information she gives you.
Check out Allen Thompson's article on Conversating for Maximum Attraction in the Articles or Quick Tips section for more information.
You have to let the mystery of you unfold SLOWLY (then again, even if you dated her for 10 years you should still be hard to read and figure out).
I'll stop here, but of course there are more steps to getting from her initial interest to the bedroom but there's enough information in other posts and on the rest of this site for all of that.
"The strong rule the weak but the wise rule the strong." I'm out.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.