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Don Juan
First off, a toxic LTR relationship will destroy your DJ progress. Such a mindtrip BPD women can lead you on! Glad to be out of that nightmare...getting back in the swing of things once again.
Self Assessment: 6'2", 200lbs, cut shape, attractive, funny personality, I consider myself to be of high value. I don't have a ton of friends, i'm very independent. Not a ****y arrogant guy by any means. I've been told i'm good looking, but it doesn't go to my head. Down to earth guy.
I do not have a girlfriend, but dating a few at the moment. Problem is, they aren't what I want. They are what is convenient, girls i've met, started talking to, one thing leads to another, and there you go. But the girls that I WANT, I don't have. This is a problem!
Field Report Last night:
A girl I know, super cute IMO invited me and a friend (my wing) to party with her and her two room mates at their house. This is the first time i'm making the trip to see and party with her specifically, so I was looking forward to the night.
Everything is going well, girl's laughing, i'm escalating kino, she's biting back, i'm playing with the fabric on her jeans, lol you know the playful stuff. Then we hit up the bar, negs, kino, run of the mill stuff. She's still receptive, so I continue to be playful throughout the whole evening playing drinking games and just hanging out. I was looking for a way to isolate my girl from the group, something dumb like "hey let's you and I go make a drink upstairs", and kiss her while her and I are alone. But the smooth opportunity for this never presented itself, so at the very end of the night I tried. It was not an ideal situation. Room mates were in different rooms, I sent my wing to the car lol, and I go to kiss her goodnight, i'm going for a legit kiss on the lips. At the last second she turned her cheek....damn
In reality, did she really turn the cheek? I don't know we were both tipsy, kinda rushed at this point in leaving. I came in on an angle, could it have looked like i did the cheek thing and she went along with it, sure. I'm not going to dwell on it, I didn't succeed this time. Will I try again? you bet! This wasn't the ideal situation, but you need to make your own luck. You'll create the perfect situation in your mind and wait for it to come, but chances are it won't come unless you make it. I didn't want to leave without at least trying to take it one step farther...tonight I failed.
I don't know if it's my wing, he's not the best looking guy in the world, but he can hold his own in a conversation with a girl. For some reason though, I'm starting to think the guy turns women OFF. He would just sit there at times, some of what he says is too ****y without the funny, too much of a negative towards the girl, and she'll laugh it off but really deep down is irritated. Know what I mean?
Conclusion:
So WTF haha Is my wingman a dud? Is he hurting my chances? Am I not escalating quickly enough? This is becoming a common issue, and I want to fix it!
Self Assessment: 6'2", 200lbs, cut shape, attractive, funny personality, I consider myself to be of high value. I don't have a ton of friends, i'm very independent. Not a ****y arrogant guy by any means. I've been told i'm good looking, but it doesn't go to my head. Down to earth guy.
I do not have a girlfriend, but dating a few at the moment. Problem is, they aren't what I want. They are what is convenient, girls i've met, started talking to, one thing leads to another, and there you go. But the girls that I WANT, I don't have. This is a problem!
Field Report Last night:
A girl I know, super cute IMO invited me and a friend (my wing) to party with her and her two room mates at their house. This is the first time i'm making the trip to see and party with her specifically, so I was looking forward to the night.
Everything is going well, girl's laughing, i'm escalating kino, she's biting back, i'm playing with the fabric on her jeans, lol you know the playful stuff. Then we hit up the bar, negs, kino, run of the mill stuff. She's still receptive, so I continue to be playful throughout the whole evening playing drinking games and just hanging out. I was looking for a way to isolate my girl from the group, something dumb like "hey let's you and I go make a drink upstairs", and kiss her while her and I are alone. But the smooth opportunity for this never presented itself, so at the very end of the night I tried. It was not an ideal situation. Room mates were in different rooms, I sent my wing to the car lol, and I go to kiss her goodnight, i'm going for a legit kiss on the lips. At the last second she turned her cheek....damn
In reality, did she really turn the cheek? I don't know we were both tipsy, kinda rushed at this point in leaving. I came in on an angle, could it have looked like i did the cheek thing and she went along with it, sure. I'm not going to dwell on it, I didn't succeed this time. Will I try again? you bet! This wasn't the ideal situation, but you need to make your own luck. You'll create the perfect situation in your mind and wait for it to come, but chances are it won't come unless you make it. I didn't want to leave without at least trying to take it one step farther...tonight I failed.
I don't know if it's my wing, he's not the best looking guy in the world, but he can hold his own in a conversation with a girl. For some reason though, I'm starting to think the guy turns women OFF. He would just sit there at times, some of what he says is too ****y without the funny, too much of a negative towards the girl, and she'll laugh it off but really deep down is irritated. Know what I mean?
Conclusion:
So WTF haha
Is my wingman a dud? Is he hurting my chances? Am I not escalating quickly enough? This is becoming a common issue, and I want to fix it!
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