"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Im a junior in highschool and theres this freshman girl whos into me. We have almost never talked except for a name exchange and shes not in any of my classes, but shes into me.

How would I get further than just firting glances with this girl? Whats the next step I would take?

Being that I already know she likes me should I just take her out now? Or should I spend more time getting to know her?

Im new to all this and I dont know whats the next step to take once you have a girl who physically likes you but doesnt know you. I dont know how to approach her, what to talk about with her, when to take her out, etc etc
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well the only way you can get to know her is by hanging out with her. Next time you see her, approach her and just start talking. Use the tips from this site and you'll be fine. If she's into you as you say she is then she will be glad you approached her. Ask her for her email, number, etc and mention getting together with her. Then in a couple days give her a shout and make some plans.
 
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Originally posted by Testify
Well the only way you can get to know her is by hanging out with her. Next time you see her, approach her and just start talking. Use the tips from this site and you'll be fine. If she's into you as you say she is then she will be glad you approached her. Ask her for her email, number, etc and mention getting together with her. Then in a couple days give her a shout and make some plans.
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Thats my problem, I'm new to all this, I dont know what'd Id be talking to her about when I see her or where'd I'd take her to hang or what'd we do or anything.
 
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Have you read the forums? The bible? etc?
Just spend a night reading all this **** and give it a go. There's so much to learn. I am a newbie too.

Talk about what her. Her interests, what she does for fun, where she's from, if you notice something she is wearing that is unique; talk about that, talk about what she did last weekend, you just need to start talking to her. Once you do that then you can get some digits.
 
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hes right. the best way to get a girl is to get to kinda know her (be wary of the friends zone, cause its a bottomless pit with the excape at the very bottom) and then make jokes off of what shes told you. if she is french, bring **** up about french kissing ( i know its immature, but you said shes a freshmen, so it should be alright). if she does something stupid, tease her about it. the best way to learn this stuff is reading the bible, seriously. and dont turn into some of the people around here and over analize every little thing.

but remember, you got like 2-3 years on her, you are the dominant one! dont forget it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Book em' Dano. Chill said it. Take the bull by the horns. :)
 
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