Hi guys, I am still new to dating world, I had solid success, about a week ago I met ****ing hot girl at birthday party, we were playing drinking game and I cant really remember but we were cuddling and kissing for most of the night, We didnt really talk, I just know her name and I added her on insta, my friend told me she thinks I am cute and that she would like to find more about me, I find her attractive and I called her on a date, she told me she is free at thursday and I said ok, we didnt really chat, since I want to stay mysterious and dont want to be needy, and last night I sent her message to confirm a date and she sai "I wont be able to go out tommorow, we can go out another time, sorry, It felt bad but oh well I dont really know her.. Maybe she had some good reason for flaking but I dont really believe it, I didnt respond, what is your advice? Did I do right thing of ignoring her, because she said she was into me and this happenned?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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If she was interested and really could not make it, she would have proposed another day and place with clarity.
You could reply to leave the door open (if you care about that). Just reply - "duly noted".
You could reply to leave the door open (if you care about that). Just reply - "duly noted".
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How old are you two?
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Oh, if she's attractive as you say she is, you should believe it.
Think you're the only one putting a bid in? You're not.
She didn't give a counteroffer. That's low interest. If Lebron James asked her , and she couldn't show, she'd make damn sure to have a date ready, and they'd arrange as necessary.
Just delete the number and move on. If she's interested, she'll reach out. Otherwise, do not follow.
Case closed.
Think you're the only one putting a bid in? You're not.
She didn't give a counteroffer. That's low interest. If Lebron James asked her , and she couldn't show, she'd make damn sure to have a date ready, and they'd arrange as necessary.
Just delete the number and move on. If she's interested, she'll reach out. Otherwise, do not follow.
Case closed.