She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Stop being an idiot. This reminds me of my gf in 9th grade.chevelle said:I had a girl basically dump me, but she still calls/text messages me sometimes. What is the deal with this? This is the first time this has ever happened to me, so i was wondering why she does it?
Her text messages are usually pretty flattering btw
thanks!
Took the words out of my mouth. Totally agree.WORKEROUTER said:Stop being an idiot. This reminds me of my gf in 9th grade.
I want you to decide if you want this girl or not. If you do, then you tell her to figure out what she wants. You're going to tell her that there will be no more text messages, calls, etc., and that you aren't going to tolerate her playing around. You are going to tell her that the next call between you two is to set up a date together, period.
If you don't want this girl and want to move on (which you probably should), you're going to tell her straight out that the relationship is over, and that her "flattering messages" are unwanted.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.