"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Fleshy99

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I've been charming this girl I've been trying to have coffee with for the last couple months.
On V-day I sent her 3 roses to her work and she found out it was from and was really shocked but she liked that I had sent them. We talked on the phone that night for an hour an a half. I really made her day and she made mine. I told her that I really want to get to know her because I feel like I would be missing out on an amazing person - totally got her attention.

So I sat down with her at the local coffee joint last week and it went great, shes totally into me. I chickened out and didnt kiss her though.
I want to keep seeing her hoping she'll see me again this week. (we are both busy on weekends) I'd like to go in for the kiss this time around, so things can progress a little quicker.

The strange thing is this girl is into me, but she doesnt return my calls after I left her a voice message, and I've texted her a few times not getting anything in return, it makes me paranoid. I'm reinforcing the fact that she's into me with everything that has happened and she's stared into my eyes pretty hard. So I have nothing to really worry about right now. This is just strange that she doesnt really return calls or messages at all.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You're coming on pretty strong, so just make sure you have the game to back it up. If you're waiting until date 82 to make a move, you'll get thrown in the friend zone. Just try and dial it back a bit, move slower, and get a better feel for the situation. Not responding to your phone advances is a bad sign, but just take it easy. Report back with how things progress.
 
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Well here is my downer for the week...

She hasnt responded to any of my messages. I thought that she would call me back this week to go out with me again since she only has time during the week. I spent basically a whole week playing the waiting game and realized she might not be that into me regardless of all the signals she sent me suggesting that she does like me.

I havent heard from her all week, she hasnt responded to her voicemail messages. I know people are busy, especially this girl, but come on, at least text me back saying "I'm sorry I've been busy"

This really bums me out, I thought I was getting somewhere with this, I thought this was a good way to start out, and it seems like a load of crap.
I'm keeping up my value, trying to stay strong. I've been getting nice complements from girls recently that have been rather unexpected.

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Fleshy99 said:
I've been charming this girl I've been trying to have coffee with for the last couple months.

If you've been trying to get her to have coffee with you for the last couple months your not charming her..your desperate for her approval..

On V-day I sent her 3 roses to her work and she found out it was from and was really shocked but she liked that I had sent them.

Dude....this is chump behavior!! You haven't even been out on a date with her yet, but your sending her roses AT HER WORK!!! CREEPY STALKER ALERT!!! She was more than shocked and not in a good way.

We talked on the phone that night for an hour an a half. I really made her day and she made mine.

Her attention made your day, she felt obligated to talk to you due to your gesture. Furthermore talking to a girl for that long is not a good idea unless your game is tight...

I told her that I really want to get to know her because I feel like I would be missing out on an amazing person - totally got her attention.

Wow.... why don't you crown her the new queen of England while your at it... this reeks of complete desperation and puts her on a pedestal.....:rolleyes: She hasn't proven $hit to you, but your putting her above you based on her looks.

So I sat down with her at the local coffee joint last week and it went great, shes totally into me.

She's totally into you but she won't respond to a single call or text message?? Hmmm she sure has an interesting way of showing you that she's interested

I chickened out and didnt kiss her though.

She would have rejected you...or gave you the cheek.

I want to keep seeing her hoping she'll see me again this week. (we are both busy on weekends) I'd like to go in for the kiss this time around, so things can progress a little quicker.

Chump behavior....listen to yourself! You sound incredibly desperate! You "hope she'll see you again??" WTF is wrong with you?

The strange thing is this girl is into me, but she doesnt return my calls after I left her a voice message, and I've texted her a few times not getting anything in return, it makes me paranoid.

Newsflash: She's NOT into you.....AT ALL!

I'm reinforcing the fact that she's into me with everything that has happened and she's stared into my eyes pretty hard.

You: I really like you, if you didn't get that by the 3 roses I sent you and the desperation in my voice, I'm going to reinforce it now by confirming that I do indeed like you in case you didn't know...

Also don't read too much into her every movement. She twirled her hair, she MUST be into me... Get her in your bed naked, then you'll know if she's into you.

So I have nothing to really worry about right now. This is just strange that she doesnt really return calls or messages at all.

You already lost before you started.... you made every error in the book. This girl will avoid you like the plague now. You need to stop kissing girls @sses when you don't know them. A girl likes mystery, excitement and personality, you showed her all your cards too soon. Game over.

Move on, unless you like punishing yourself.... read the Bible now![/B
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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chicks can have a change their mind overnight...stop calling/texting and find ways to raise your value to her and let her knock on the gateway doors of your kingdom.

Signin off,
Hardstylin Lovah like no OthA'
 
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Fleshy99 said:
I've been charming this girl I've been trying to have coffee with for the last couple months.
On V-day I sent her 3 roses to her work and she found out it was from and was really shocked but she liked that I had sent them. We talked on the phone that night for an hour an a half. I really made her day and she made mine. I told her that I really want to get to know her because I feel like I would be missing out on an amazing person - totally got her attention.

So I sat down with her at the local coffee joint last week and it went great, shes totally into me. I chickened out and didnt kiss her though.
I want to keep seeing her hoping she'll see me again this week. (we are both busy on weekends) I'd like to go in for the kiss this time around, so things can progress a little quicker.

The strange thing is this girl is into me, but she doesnt return my calls after I left her a voice message, and I've texted her a few times not getting anything in return, it makes me paranoid. I'm reinforcing the fact that she's into me with everything that has happened and she's stared into my eyes pretty hard. So I have nothing to really worry about right now. This is just strange that she doesnt really return calls or messages at all.

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