"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Fleshy99

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I've been charming this girl I've been trying to have coffee with for the last couple months.
On V-day I sent her 3 roses to her work and she found out it was from and was really shocked but she liked that I had sent them. We talked on the phone that night for an hour an a half. I really made her day and she made mine. I told her that I really want to get to know her because I feel like I would be missing out on an amazing person - totally got her attention.

So I sat down with her at the local coffee joint last week and it went great, shes totally into me. I chickened out and didnt kiss her though.
I want to keep seeing her hoping she'll see me again this week. (we are both busy on weekends) I'd like to go in for the kiss this time around, so things can progress a little quicker.

The strange thing is this girl is into me, but she doesnt return my calls after I left her a voice message, and I've texted her a few times not getting anything in return, it makes me paranoid. I'm reinforcing the fact that she's into me with everything that has happened and she's stared into my eyes pretty hard. So I have nothing to really worry about right now. This is just strange that she doesnt really return calls or messages at all.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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You're coming on pretty strong, so just make sure you have the game to back it up. If you're waiting until date 82 to make a move, you'll get thrown in the friend zone. Just try and dial it back a bit, move slower, and get a better feel for the situation. Not responding to your phone advances is a bad sign, but just take it easy. Report back with how things progress.
 

Fleshy99

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Well here is my downer for the week...

She hasnt responded to any of my messages. I thought that she would call me back this week to go out with me again since she only has time during the week. I spent basically a whole week playing the waiting game and realized she might not be that into me regardless of all the signals she sent me suggesting that she does like me.

I havent heard from her all week, she hasnt responded to her voicemail messages. I know people are busy, especially this girl, but come on, at least text me back saying "I'm sorry I've been busy"

This really bums me out, I thought I was getting somewhere with this, I thought this was a good way to start out, and it seems like a load of crap.
I'm keeping up my value, trying to stay strong. I've been getting nice complements from girls recently that have been rather unexpected.

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Pimp-sicle

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Fleshy99 said:
I've been charming this girl I've been trying to have coffee with for the last couple months.

If you've been trying to get her to have coffee with you for the last couple months your not charming her..your desperate for her approval..

On V-day I sent her 3 roses to her work and she found out it was from and was really shocked but she liked that I had sent them.

Dude....this is chump behavior!! You haven't even been out on a date with her yet, but your sending her roses AT HER WORK!!! CREEPY STALKER ALERT!!! She was more than shocked and not in a good way.

We talked on the phone that night for an hour an a half. I really made her day and she made mine.

Her attention made your day, she felt obligated to talk to you due to your gesture. Furthermore talking to a girl for that long is not a good idea unless your game is tight...

I told her that I really want to get to know her because I feel like I would be missing out on an amazing person - totally got her attention.

Wow.... why don't you crown her the new queen of England while your at it... this reeks of complete desperation and puts her on a pedestal.....:rolleyes: She hasn't proven $hit to you, but your putting her above you based on her looks.

So I sat down with her at the local coffee joint last week and it went great, shes totally into me.

She's totally into you but she won't respond to a single call or text message?? Hmmm she sure has an interesting way of showing you that she's interested

I chickened out and didnt kiss her though.

She would have rejected you...or gave you the cheek.

I want to keep seeing her hoping she'll see me again this week. (we are both busy on weekends) I'd like to go in for the kiss this time around, so things can progress a little quicker.

Chump behavior....listen to yourself! You sound incredibly desperate! You "hope she'll see you again??" WTF is wrong with you?

The strange thing is this girl is into me, but she doesnt return my calls after I left her a voice message, and I've texted her a few times not getting anything in return, it makes me paranoid.

Newsflash: She's NOT into you.....AT ALL!

I'm reinforcing the fact that she's into me with everything that has happened and she's stared into my eyes pretty hard.

You: I really like you, if you didn't get that by the 3 roses I sent you and the desperation in my voice, I'm going to reinforce it now by confirming that I do indeed like you in case you didn't know...

Also don't read too much into her every movement. She twirled her hair, she MUST be into me... Get her in your bed naked, then you'll know if she's into you.


So I have nothing to really worry about right now. This is just strange that she doesnt really return calls or messages at all.

You already lost before you started.... you made every error in the book. This girl will avoid you like the plague now. You need to stop kissing girls @sses when you don't know them. A girl likes mystery, excitement and personality, you showed her all your cards too soon. Game over.

Move on, unless you like punishing yourself.... read the Bible now![/B






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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hardstylin_Rebel

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chicks can have a change their mind overnight...stop calling/texting and find ways to raise your value to her and let her knock on the gateway doors of your kingdom.

Signin off,
Hardstylin Lovah like no OthA'
 

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Fleshy99 said:
I've been charming this girl I've been trying to have coffee with for the last couple months.
On V-day I sent her 3 roses to her work and she found out it was from and was really shocked but she liked that I had sent them. We talked on the phone that night for an hour an a half. I really made her day and she made mine. I told her that I really want to get to know her because I feel like I would be missing out on an amazing person - totally got her attention.

So I sat down with her at the local coffee joint last week and it went great, shes totally into me. I chickened out and didnt kiss her though.
I want to keep seeing her hoping she'll see me again this week. (we are both busy on weekends) I'd like to go in for the kiss this time around, so things can progress a little quicker.

The strange thing is this girl is into me, but she doesnt return my calls after I left her a voice message, and I've texted her a few times not getting anything in return, it makes me paranoid. I'm reinforcing the fact that she's into me with everything that has happened and she's stared into my eyes pretty hard. So I have nothing to really worry about right now. This is just strange that she doesnt really return calls or messages at all.

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