"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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kickureface

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i have some belly fat and some fat legs, but my upper body is pretty lean. im kinda like a beer bottle shape. obviously, i want to lose that fat. but i also want to get some muscle too. im not a skinny guy, im toned/fat, if you know what i mean.

should i work on cutting down first then build up or build up then cut down?
what are hte advantages and disadvatnages of either?

oh, and i want to keep lifting weights either path i take. is this feasible?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheLazy

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yes you can keep lifting weights regardless of wether you want to cut the fat or put on lean mass.

lifting weights while you are cutting fat will allow you to retain your muscles and even gain a bit more (if you are new to bodybuilding).

if you want to go straight to bulking, that would be great too, it all comes down to whats important to you right now.
 

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I'm cutting up right now. Main thing in the gym is I keep my reps mid to high range (12 - 16), and allow 30 seconds or less in between sets. This lets you maintain a faster heartbeat through the exercise, and in turn burns fat also. My meals are high in protein, low in carbs and sugar. Of course there are other guidelines to follow, but that is the meat of what you're going to need to do if you want to cut up and still maintain muscle.
 

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It's no myth that an increased heart rate will result in burning more calories. With less rest between sets, you do achieve a higher heart rate. I've heard many different ways of cutting up.. there's always one constant though; you need cardio or at least to simulate cardio during a work out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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