Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Getting back with ex? Possible?

viking22

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I sort of ended up talking to my ex girlfriend as we bumped into each other after not seeing each other for six months. There still seemed to be some chemistry between us and I found myself fancying her again.

It was a weird break up because she did not stop liking me as such, she just has commitment issues and felt it was becoming too much and was going through a rough patch at the time.

She says she wants to be friends. But I know it is because she saw our break up as an indication that she cannot do relationships and thinks the same would happen if we dated again.

I really want to change her mind but know if I push she is going to just get scared away.

Should I be friends with her? I know deep down I want to get back together with her. But if we were friends for a while is there a chance she'd relax around me and since the chemistry seems to still be there something would happen naturally.

Not sure what to do really but want to give it one last go before moving on for good. Although there are lots of hot girls out there and I've been back in the game and having fun, I miss her and she made me happy in a way other girls do not
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJDamage

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viking22 said:
It was a weird break up because she did not stop liking me as such, she just has commitment issues and felt it was becoming too much and was going through a rough patch at the time.
Is that what she told you? and you believed her?

The real reason: She didn't want to commit to you because she didn't like you as much and was waiting for a better deal out there.

viking22 said:
She says she wants to be friends. But I know it is because she saw our break up as an indication that she cannot do relationships and thinks the same would happen if we dated again.
She just want to be friends. She is the one that dumped you and wants you to be her friend so she won't feel as guilty for dumping you. This way you can be her little 'neutered pet' where you are going to be there to entertain her but not to fvck her. That job will belong to the next guy.

viking22 said:
I really want to change her mind but know if I push she is going to just get scared away.
You can't change her mind since she already made up her mind 6 months ago about you.

viking22 said:
Should I be friends with her? I know deep down I want to get back together with her. But if we were friends for a while is there a chance she'd relax around me and since the chemistry seems to still be there something would happen naturally.
Going through the friend route path is like struggling through quick sand. The more you try the more you are going to sink in! You need to read the DJ Bible.

viking22 said:
Not sure what to do really but want to give it one last go before moving on for good. Although there are lots of hot girls out there and I've been back in the game and having fun, I miss her and she made me happy in a way other girls do not
You have oneitis for this girl, you need to move on and not waste your time with her because there are plenty of girls who are available right now and you will miss your oppertuinty with them if you chase this loss cause.
 

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DJDamage said:
She just want to be friends. She is the one that dumped you and wants you to be her friend so she won't feel as guilty for dumping you. This way you can be her little 'neutered pet' where you are going to be there to entertain her but not to fvck her. That job will belong to the next guy.

I absolutely knocked my ex on her ass when we broke up and i told her i have no intention of being friends with her.

She's STILL trying to keep in contact with me and it's been 8 months and she's with another guy.

Girls are dumb. You wanted to break up, fine... good, we're broken up. Go have a life without me.
 
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