"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DoubleA

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Congrats.

The only thing I ask, is you use what you have learned from this experience to another man in need.

As is written..."To each one, Teach one."

I knew you'd do it, kid. :cheer:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ricky

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I have some specific questions on what you said when you contacted her. Did you any way express that you had interest in her again. Could you PM me.

I have played my hand cool with my ex even though to everyone else I have the AFC oneitis talk.

She thinks I was mad at her not for her but the fact that someone broke up with me. Like a girl had the nerve to break up with me.
 

Ricky

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Congrats on getting back with her. Take it slow and easy.

You give me some hope, although my ex is far away.
 

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basically i was going to "ante up" with her like Rollo had said, but the conversation sort of stayed light and so I went with it. At a high point in the conversation, I asked her if she wanted to get some ice cream Thursday (very important that you get specifics right, so you're not calling her over and over). After we went out she brought up the issues so we worked them out.

The theory that a girl with high IL makes it easy for you is true. this was an easy process. At this point my advice would be to move on and believe that you have moved on. Me and her both agreed that us moving on taught us some things. I wouldn't suggest dwelling on an ex, and i doubt any of these other guys would either. What you have to do is show her an improved version of the guy you were when you first met. And man, I got MAJOR afc on her at the end, so if i can recover, anyone can....

I'd try her back once a month until i got a positive response or you find something better. It's funny how some of these things hinge on one phone conversation sometimes.......
 

Ricky

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I get a positive response when she picks up the phone. I only try once every 10 days or so, or sometimes I email

I'm taking a break.

At first I thought I was waiting too long between contact. I was worried she'd forget about me completely. Now I'm thinking the longer I go the better I might feel about it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Diligentsd

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Best of luck to you speedo!

I think that time you took off, really paid off. Even in my two-monther and being just a few weeks from breaking it off, I think my oneitis would flame up if we got back together. Letting the dust settle and regaining your mental focus has made you strong. Keep it there brother.
 
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