"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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getting back with a girl I went out with...?

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I went out with this girl last summer and then when the school semester started, i sent her away cause I was afraid of a relationship and wanted to talk to more girls. I'm a dumb ass for letting her go. but I run into her on campus from time to time. The last time she got a new phone so we exchanged numbers. I think she may be interested but since it's been so long, i probably have say more than just ask her out (to shake the whole friends thing). Wether she's feeling me or not, I want an answer. But I don't want to go in all AFC and screw things up. lol. Any ideas what i should say/ask?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You're already in the wrong frame of mind... You don't want to screw things up like an AFC... don't talk about last summer, don't bring it up, don't hint at it, it never happened... if she asks about it, give the short answer and change subject.

Just start by going out with the girl, since you already have her number, not on a date... like out with her and her friends + you and your friends.
 
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chancer said:
I went out with this girl last summer and then when the school semester started, i sent her away cause I was afraid of a relationship and wanted to talk to more girls. I'm a dumb ass for letting her go. but I run into her on campus from time to time. The last time she got a new phone so we exchanged numbers. I think she may be interested but since it's been so long, i probably have say more than just ask her out (to shake the whole friends thing). Wether she's feeling me or not, I want an answer. But I don't want to go in all AFC and screw things up. lol. Any ideas what i should say/ask?
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I was in the same situation with a girl I went out with several years ago. She was crazy for me and wanted something serious. I didn't, so we went our separate ways.

We reconnected again when I sent her a random e-mail and she responded. Alot of things happened since last time we went out, but to make the long story short, she had lost all romantic interest in me and pretty much treated me as a friend. In fact she is seriously dating some guy.

Dont assume that she harbors the same feelings she did when you first met her. People change as well as their feelings over time.

If you still like this girl, then do what you did when you first asked her out and see how she responds and just take it from there.
 
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