"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting back to the game

Ridingthelightning

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Trying to keep this short...
Haven't dated anyone for almost 2 years, at least not long term or consistently. Found a girl who has many attributes I like and shows interest in me. We went out on St Pat's day, made out, danced, talked a lot. I just texted her to see if she has time for a beer or coffee and ... she just texted back "when?". lol It sucks because one side of my mind says "make a definite time" while the other says "give an option of now or later".
I only say the option because I am writing stuff for school all day and it is an option for me. I'm reading WAY too much into this, but thats what "AFCs" do.

What say you?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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COD

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DONT GIVE HER OPTIONS OR LIMIT OPTIONS............ Meeting under the influece is not the best scenario.......just smells of buyers remorse. The moment has passed, so re-engaging is your # 1 priority. You sould strive to put her back in that mind state.

The WHEN text is kinda tricky........cause no matter what your answer is, she now can say NOPE BUSY.

Give her a A or B choice.........if she declines both your right back to the WHEN situation.

You need to determine when she is free/available then set it up then.

Your first text is crutial in setting the tone for future meet ups.......saying when do u want to get together does not do this. You control the shotz and be a little more creativly playful in your virtual communications.

EXAMPLES: YOU-hey drunken bar chic ready for round 2
 

jophil28

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I just don't get this - why is there a problem.

You invited her out for a drink. she asks,"when" and then you start a post asking for advice aboout what to do next..

Here - text this reply, " Friday 7pm Moonbucks"
 

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GOTTA LUV THOSE KEYWORD ADS.........A HANDBAG ADVERTISEMENT POPPED UP CAUSE YOU WROTE (girl, she, danced, dated, her)
 

Ridingthelightning

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I told you all, I'm reading too much into this :) lol
I'm going to a coffee shop very shortly to do some homework, she is meeting me there when she gets off work.

Next move is to get another chick to go on a date with. I've never really dated multiple chicks, no better time to start than now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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