"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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getting back into the game, guidance?

Big Eee Zee

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hey guys, just went through some loss and figured I'd reach out for a little support. God, its been a while since I posted.

Anyways, lost a parent recently and my GF of a year dumped me, and is now ****ing some dude who she said she'd never touch. He's a pretty boy, a bit of a tool (kinda womanly, lacks any real manly traits). He worships her, which is what she needs, what I can't bring myself to do, and why we broke up. I'm sure he's good for her and I know i'd never be (given I have a spine), but it still kinda sucks to end an LTR and have them move on first.

Right now, I'm burying myself in work. Im in school, and in my spare time I try and keep busy. Got some collectible cars, and a motorcycle, and I've been working out regularly (looking better I must say.) I wanna take some martial arts classes or something too, just for fun.

Still, I'm having a hard time meeting women. I've been going out regularly but my circle of friends is combed over so I gotta find fresh meat. It ain't easy! I only really have one other buddy I can troll with but even though I would say we are both pretty attractive, fun loving guys, women don't bite. Maybe I need to be more aware, but I feel like most women that I see don't display a single IOI. And its frustrating, because I SHOULD be desirable. Successful, in school, working hard, good looking, funny etc. I'm not perfect, but I figured I could pull a hottie by now. I'm kinda looking to be shallow, and just hook up with someone way hotter than my ex, to prove to myself (and a little bit to her) that I can do better haha.

Anyone got any advice? I am happy, and I figure I'm pretty confident. If nothing materializes i'll just keep myself working, making money, fixing my cars and having fun (gotta make your own life worth living!) but I'd really like a little revenge booty.

I know its vague, but I figure maybe someone can give me a nudge in just the direction I need...

Thanks guys!

PS I know i'm cross posting this, dont whine :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Big Eee Zee

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trust me, I havent hooked up with enough hotties. a little validation would be nice. and bringing my standards up will only lead to a better self image, more confidence etc. its kinda positive no matter what happens.
 
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