"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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getting back into the game, guidance?

Big Eee Zee

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hey guys, just went through some loss and figured I'd reach out for a little support. God, its been a while since I posted.

Anyways, lost a parent recently and my GF of a year dumped me, and is now ****ing some dude who she said she'd never touch. He's a pretty boy, a bit of a tool (kinda womanly, lacks any real manly traits). He worships her, which is what she needs, what I can't bring myself to do, and why we broke up. I'm sure he's good for her and I know i'd never be (given I have a spine), but it still kinda sucks to end an LTR and have them move on first.

Right now, I'm burying myself in work. Im in school, and in my spare time I try and keep busy. Got some collectible cars, and a motorcycle, and I've been working out regularly (looking better I must say.) I wanna take some martial arts classes or something too, just for fun.

Still, I'm having a hard time meeting women. I've been going out regularly but my circle of friends is combed over so I gotta find fresh meat. It ain't easy! I only really have one other buddy I can troll with but even though I would say we are both pretty attractive, fun loving guys, women don't bite. Maybe I need to be more aware, but I feel like most women that I see don't display a single IOI. And its frustrating, because I SHOULD be desirable. Successful, in school, working hard, good looking, funny etc. I'm not perfect, but I figured I could pull a hottie by now. I'm kinda looking to be shallow, and just hook up with someone way hotter than my ex, to prove to myself (and a little bit to her) that I can do better haha.

Anyone got any advice? I am happy, and I figure I'm pretty confident. If nothing materializes i'll just keep myself working, making money, fixing my cars and having fun (gotta make your own life worth living!) but I'd really like a little revenge booty.

I know its vague, but I figure maybe someone can give me a nudge in just the direction I need...

Thanks guys!

PS I know i'm cross posting this, dont whine :D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Big Eee Zee

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trust me, I havent hooked up with enough hotties. a little validation would be nice. and bringing my standards up will only lead to a better self image, more confidence etc. its kinda positive no matter what happens.
 
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