"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Getting back in shape

insomniac

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Finally dragged myself to the gym tonight on my quest to get back the healthy, trim body I had last summer.

At the end, weighed myself and was about where I thought I'd be...190 lbs. For my build, that's way too high (6'0", medium build...some muscle, but not not enough to justify that weight.) I've been a complete slob the last couple months...no exercise and eating fast food for lunch all the time. (Note to self: When in a relationship, keep your workout routine!) Of course, most of my problems started last summer when I got sick for two months and stopped, but no excuses.

No problem. I lost 60lbs before, and I know what works for my body. My target weight is 165 to 170 lbs, and assuming I can lose 1 1/2 lbs a week, should be there by June. My real target is looking good of course, since the scale doesn't tell you everything. And though right now I still look in good shape and don't have a gut or anything like that, I can just feel the fat on me. Plus all the nice clothes I bought are getting tight and uncomfortable.

So, I'm going to do what worked before:

- 4x week 30+ min cardio and weights
- No fast food, snacks, junk food

If that's not enough, I'll just have to adjust my diet.

Once spring/summer rolls around, it'll be a lot easier since I do a lot of biking, rollerblading, and stay active outside. I'm getting excited about it already.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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diablo

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I'm running into the same problems - jeans are actually starting to get a little tighter... hopefully eating unprocessed foods coupled with a steady routine will be enough. I plan on starting hardcore on Monday, March 14 - my birthday.. I'm 5'11", 203 lbs. We can have a friendly little competition to whip us both in shape.

By the way, what size rollerblades do you wear? I've got a pair of untouched K2 Flight ALX's in a US11 that I'd get rid of for cheap - bought them new on eBay only to find that I'm an 11.5, had to get some Salomon's that fit me better.
 

belividere

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Nothing better than a friendly competition.

Good for you. I have the opposite story, lost a ton of weight and was wasting away. Started back up right around christmas. Been going strong and put on about 10-15lbs. Anyways you have the drive I hope you exceed your goals. Best of luck.
 

insomniac

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Man, I sure got sidetracked the last three months. A week after I went back to the gym, I got hit by a series of health issues that put a halt to it all (post-concussive syndrome from a snowboarding fall, cyst in my testicle, a couple colds). The last three weeks I've just been lazy.

But, now I'm healthy again and back to the gym four days a week. I've lost a few pounds just watching my diet, and I'm feeling better all ready. I should really drop it now that I'm physically active again.
 
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