"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting back in contact/Dealing with compliments

PeterCrouch

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2 part question this.

Firstly, what are peoples opinions and best ideas on getting back in contact with girls you havent seen/spoke too for a good few years. Really want to get in contact with one or two who despite having them on facebook, I haven't spoke to for a while now and probably because i've been reminded of them on facebook, i've started to think about trying to chat to them again. We live in different places now so the chances of bumping into them are pretty slim.

Also, as a side issue, how do people deal with compliments? For example, I've just had a new hair cuts and have recieved some compliments about it but I never know how to properly recieve a compliment like "Your hair looks good."

I'll search it aswell but how do you deal with compliments?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sageproduct

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Can't go wrong with a simple smile and "thank you". Don't always have to say something witty.
 

arutha

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Just write on their wall on facebook.. Nothing wrong with that, its what the site is for. 'Hey haven't talked to you in ages, blah blah...'

Depends on the compliment. Simply accepting it is usually a good enough way, I sometimes like to make silly jokes about it though. For example
Her:Nice shirt!
Me: Thanks! I made it myself

And my favourite:
Her: You smell nice
Me: I taste even better ;)
 

King Turi

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To deal with compliments, I just say "cheers"..

As for chatting to people from your past on facebook, just send them a message sayin' "what's up?"
 

xdreamz

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*compliment*
why thank you that's very nice of you to say
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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