When I go up to most girls I notice one thing, the attraction just doesn't happen as fast as I want it to. I can go up to the girl, get interest, maybe a couple laughs but after that, nothing. I guess another question I'd like to ask is how do you keep a girl interested AFTER the initial approach. And a lot of times with girls, I don't even think they're attracted, just interested enough to talk back. I want to get to a sexual stage of attraction with girls QUICKER, hell maybe even off the opener. Right now when I open girls it's mostly just me making a comment or asking a question. I want to actual get her ATTRACTED, I want to get to a sexual stage, I want to move it beyond the level of just having a simple convo with them. My main problem is basically, sh*t isn't happening as fast as I want it to when I approach girls. Like I've seen how giddy girls get around guys they percieve as high value and well, I want to know how I can do that right off the opener.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Getting attraction FASTER?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Give advice please or refrain from posting.krazyboy99 said:for you it's not a matter of attraction happening faster, it's a matter of it happening
Hes right lol, we dont know how you look...post a pic. Maybe its your looks, maybe its something else. A video of you approaching would be a great tool for ppl on this site to start helping you out, becuase we give you adive but you dont take itElStud said:Give advice please or refrain from posting.
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You are mainly talking about what you say. However, most of attraction is non-verbal, non rational. If she likes your style, your face your physique and body language, you could talk about anything and get laid.
It could be non verbal lol, when I approach girls it's like I'm never truly having fun with them. Even when a girl APPROACHES ME though, I can't really do sh*t about it. For instance, Lauren girl opened a convo with me earlier today and this one Taneesha girl also later opened a convo with me. But I think TRULY having fun is my biggest problems and that it's my inner insecurities that keep me from truly having 100% fun. And I think part of that is because I still care too much about outcome.mackdaknife said:You are mainly talking about what you say. However, most of attraction is non-verbal, non rational. If she likes your style, your face your physique and body language, you could talk about anything and get laid.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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But to agree with another poster, it sounds like you are not getting attraction. So no point in trying to get it faster if you are not getting it at all.
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