When I go up to most girls I notice one thing, the attraction just doesn't happen as fast as I want it to. I can go up to the girl, get interest, maybe a couple laughs but after that, nothing. I guess another question I'd like to ask is how do you keep a girl interested AFTER the initial approach. And a lot of times with girls, I don't even think they're attracted, just interested enough to talk back. I want to get to a sexual stage of attraction with girls QUICKER, hell maybe even off the opener. Right now when I open girls it's mostly just me making a comment or asking a question. I want to actual get her ATTRACTED, I want to get to a sexual stage, I want to move it beyond the level of just having a simple convo with them. My main problem is basically, sh*t isn't happening as fast as I want it to when I approach girls. Like I've seen how giddy girls get around guys they percieve as high value and well, I want to know how I can do that right off the opener.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Getting attraction FASTER?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Give advice please or refrain from posting.krazyboy99 said:for you it's not a matter of attraction happening faster, it's a matter of it happening
Hes right lol, we dont know how you look...post a pic. Maybe its your looks, maybe its something else. A video of you approaching would be a great tool for ppl on this site to start helping you out, becuase we give you adive but you dont take itElStud said:Give advice please or refrain from posting.
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You are mainly talking about what you say. However, most of attraction is non-verbal, non rational. If she likes your style, your face your physique and body language, you could talk about anything and get laid.
It could be non verbal lol, when I approach girls it's like I'm never truly having fun with them. Even when a girl APPROACHES ME though, I can't really do sh*t about it. For instance, Lauren girl opened a convo with me earlier today and this one Taneesha girl also later opened a convo with me. But I think TRULY having fun is my biggest problems and that it's my inner insecurities that keep me from truly having 100% fun. And I think part of that is because I still care too much about outcome.mackdaknife said:You are mainly talking about what you say. However, most of attraction is non-verbal, non rational. If she likes your style, your face your physique and body language, you could talk about anything and get laid.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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But to agree with another poster, it sounds like you are not getting attraction. So no point in trying to get it faster if you are not getting it at all.
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