"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Getting a Virgin to Have Sex?

foomee

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This girl I've been hooking up with the past few weeks, she says she's a virgin and wants to wait until she's married. The furthest I've gone was have it in there about an inch and I'd try to go further but she'd push me back out and say no. I've fingered her and everything and I think she really likes me. I want to take it a step forward, but don't know how to. One of my friends told me to try saying to her, "I think we're ready". I've never dealt with a virgin, so I thought it'd be fun. Any advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KontrollerX

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Well next time you put it a little ways in pretend you tripped and have it go all the way in.

You can then apologize to her and explained you slipped.

She might be mad at first but if it felt good to her she'll remember this and may let you pound away sooner rather than later the next time you meet.

Another thing you could do is act like you have to leave whenever she does this or make her feel really good and turned on but whenever she denies you of what you want you either stop the sex stuff completely or you don't do whatever it is that made her feel so good sexually as good as you normally would.

You can condition and train her that if she wants to feel good all the time she better start letting you do what you want to do or else you'll tease her into insanity lol.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Another thing you could do is act like you have to leave whenever she does this or make her feel really good and turned on but whenever she denies you of what you want you either stop the sex stuff completely or you don't do whatever it is that made her feel so good sexually as good as you normally would.


One thing I was trying was while fingering her get her to a point where she's going crazy and can't get enough and pull my finger out and keep my penis near there and she'd grab it and put it in a little. I think I'll also keep that strategy up.
 

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Tricky one this.

Ignore her cr@p about waiting till marriage. Sounds like if your almost in there she wont wait anyhow, and if you respect it she'l only get round to doing it with some other bloke.

You do need to play this one strategic without upsetting her too much. Does she have any female friends that she talks to that like sex? if so, they will tell her how good it starts to feel and she will get curious and eventually go for it.

Best advice is to keep progressing things slowly until she loosens up to the idea. try to encourage her in a non pressured way about how its a natural thing to do, and after a bit its better than chocalate ha. oh and its great exercise too. Tell her stuff like you respect her for having values, and you think it will make your relationship stronger, and you will both feel closer together after.

you need to talk women talk to get her to put out the first time. after that its smooth sailing. go easy on her the first time, and yea stop doing everything she wants until you get some of what you want.

make sense? I hope she's worth all this effort my man. :cool:
 

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foomee said:
This girl I've been hooking up with the past few weeks, she says she's a virgin and wants to wait until she's married. The furthest I've gone was have it in there about an inch and I'd try to go further but she'd push me back out and say no. I've fingered her and everything and I think she really likes me. I want to take it a step forward, but don't know how to. One of my friends told me to try saying to her, "I think we're ready". I've never dealt with a virgin, so I thought it'd be fun. Any advice?
well if she let you stick it in an inch, that means shes no longer a virgin. plus, why would she let you keep doing these attempts if she really wanted you to wait??? i smell anti-slut defense...:up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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