"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting a plate back

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I was spinning this plate 3 and a half years ago but in the end I decided to ghost and ended up going into a LTR with another girl. However that is over, and I want to get this plate back into the fold again I invited said plate for a coffee a week ago to which she agreed, it went OK but I didnt escalate (bad move I know).

Have to say, this plate is of a SMV lower than mine, however since I am not spinning any other plates now I feel it can be good for me in order to keep me in the game and more confident for the more attractive women that do come along in the near future.

So, should my next invitation be a dinner at my place, for example? Surely if she agrees that is a good sign? If she doesnt, should I then discard this plate?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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IMO, coffee without escalation into dinner at your place is too big of a jump. I'd advise having drinks near your place, and do the 'ol "Let's go back to my place for a night cap" routine.
 
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Dinner at your place is a good idea. You could also ask her out for drinks.

What ever you do don't forget to escalate. If she shoots you down just move along. Dosent hurt to give her a try
 
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dustmuffin said:
Dinner at your place is a good idea. You could also ask her out for drinks.

What ever you do don't forget to escalate. If she shoots you down just move along. Dosent hurt to give her a try
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She accepted the invitation, so lets see how it goes.
 
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