I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Exactly what I would do. Move away from AIM chat as quick as possible and get into some conversations with her.Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
YOU: So, hey, AOL sucks. Let's talk like human beings. What's your phone number?
HER: (XXX) XXX-XXXX.
YOU: Okay, I'll give you a call.
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That should be the conversation.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yea only problem i quit smoking weed, besides do you really smoke everytime you talk to a girl? and when im high i dont got much to talk about i just want to chill.... but yea i think im gonna start getting over the "not wanting to talk on the phone fear"Originally posted by Alen-Delon
theres lot wrong with AIM you cant tell the seriousness of person over texts cant tell are they for real or not, and plus they could be talking to 10 other gus at the same time and just messing around... roll your self a fattie call her up and talk to her about everything and anything.... that the real manly way to handle your shii
Keep it real
Take it for what it is, it's a fake name. You clicked and she gives you a fake name. Think about it....Originally posted by CMan2Fg
At a party this past Friday night I met this girl..We had a few things in common, we got along very well, we kinda clicked. I got her screen name/AIM name/whatever the hell you wanna call it right before I left. Since most of the things in the DJ Bible applies to phone numbers/phone conversations, how can I and should I translate that to what I have?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.