mastacheef
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this thread may RIP.. as for I sealed the deal with the girl.. alas!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
getting a girlfriend.. still the same?
- Thread starter mastacheef
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nismo-4
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Oh god!MooseGod said:
Cheesy pick up lines past the age of 18 can be easily seen through! This isn't the Saved By The Bell Era!
In high school, it was easier to ask a girl out, you could straight up do it. In college, those ways fail 93% of the time. If she ain't chasing you, you are highly likely to lose.
Otherwise, I'm in college, and asking (getting) a girl to be my girlfriend is something I'm totally clueless about. I've failed at every attempt, and couldn't get past a first date.
Johnny_Kage
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Hey nismo, what kind of things did you try? Give us an example of one of your perceived failures.
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Thanks for asking, Kage.
In high school, I was at an all boys school so I had to go to the sister schools to make moves. There are websites that have a collection of cheesy pick up lines (read them and you'll laugh), just don't try them out. You can, however, say that you heard a funny pick up line, then say it. The girl will laugh and you're 93% there. I used this tactic and ended up having the girl all over me then I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. The rest is history.
I did this same trick in college. I've gotten a date which turned me down 5 days later. Another time, I got purely lucky and wound up in a kissing affair. This led her to make me her boyfriend. I was sooooooo in!!!...I sooooooo spoke too soon. I was her boyfriend for 2 days and we didn't even date! She got back with her ex!
In college, I've tried convo plus # close hoping to escalate, straight asking the girl out, having other guys set me up with girls, having girls set me up with other girls, and even relied on pure luck.
Just to name a few.
In high school, I was at an all boys school so I had to go to the sister schools to make moves. There are websites that have a collection of cheesy pick up lines (read them and you'll laugh), just don't try them out. You can, however, say that you heard a funny pick up line, then say it. The girl will laugh and you're 93% there. I used this tactic and ended up having the girl all over me then I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. The rest is history.
I did this same trick in college. I've gotten a date which turned me down 5 days later. Another time, I got purely lucky and wound up in a kissing affair. This led her to make me her boyfriend. I was sooooooo in!!!...I sooooooo spoke too soon. I was her boyfriend for 2 days and we didn't even date! She got back with her ex!
In college, I've tried convo plus # close hoping to escalate, straight asking the girl out, having other guys set me up with girls, having girls set me up with other girls, and even relied on pure luck.
Just to name a few.
meitenesrigas
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God only knows what you get. So, if you date a virgin she can't be your girlfriend? Some of us wouldn't date anything that has had some strange guy's fluids dripping from her every orifice.Maxtro said:IMO if you've been having sex with her for about a month then she can be your girlfriend. If you aren't doing her then she isn't your girlfriend. Unless you two have come up with some weird no sex thing then you aren't even in a relationship
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.