mastacheef
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this thread may RIP.. as for I sealed the deal with the girl.. alas!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
getting a girlfriend.. still the same?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
nismo-4
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Oh god!MooseGod said:
Cheesy pick up lines past the age of 18 can be easily seen through! This isn't the Saved By The Bell Era!
In high school, it was easier to ask a girl out, you could straight up do it. In college, those ways fail 93% of the time. If she ain't chasing you, you are highly likely to lose.
Otherwise, I'm in college, and asking (getting) a girl to be my girlfriend is something I'm totally clueless about. I've failed at every attempt, and couldn't get past a first date.
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Hey nismo, what kind of things did you try? Give us an example of one of your perceived failures.
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Thanks for asking, Kage.
In high school, I was at an all boys school so I had to go to the sister schools to make moves. There are websites that have a collection of cheesy pick up lines (read them and you'll laugh), just don't try them out. You can, however, say that you heard a funny pick up line, then say it. The girl will laugh and you're 93% there. I used this tactic and ended up having the girl all over me then I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. The rest is history.
I did this same trick in college. I've gotten a date which turned me down 5 days later. Another time, I got purely lucky and wound up in a kissing affair. This led her to make me her boyfriend. I was sooooooo in!!!...I sooooooo spoke too soon. I was her boyfriend for 2 days and we didn't even date! She got back with her ex!
In college, I've tried convo plus # close hoping to escalate, straight asking the girl out, having other guys set me up with girls, having girls set me up with other girls, and even relied on pure luck.
Just to name a few.
In high school, I was at an all boys school so I had to go to the sister schools to make moves. There are websites that have a collection of cheesy pick up lines (read them and you'll laugh), just don't try them out. You can, however, say that you heard a funny pick up line, then say it. The girl will laugh and you're 93% there. I used this tactic and ended up having the girl all over me then I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. The rest is history.
I did this same trick in college. I've gotten a date which turned me down 5 days later. Another time, I got purely lucky and wound up in a kissing affair. This led her to make me her boyfriend. I was sooooooo in!!!...I sooooooo spoke too soon. I was her boyfriend for 2 days and we didn't even date! She got back with her ex!
In college, I've tried convo plus # close hoping to escalate, straight asking the girl out, having other guys set me up with girls, having girls set me up with other girls, and even relied on pure luck.
Just to name a few.
meitenesrigas
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God only knows what you get. So, if you date a virgin she can't be your girlfriend? Some of us wouldn't date anything that has had some strange guy's fluids dripping from her every orifice.Maxtro said:IMO if you've been having sex with her for about a month then she can be your girlfriend. If you aren't doing her then she isn't your girlfriend. Unless you two have come up with some weird no sex thing then you aren't even in a relationship
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.