"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Getting a fake tan

Sofomore

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So I'm probably getting flamed for this but what are your thoughts on men getting a fake tan? I'm extremely white in the winter and I've had girls call me out.

Have any of you gone to tanning beds? Did you turn orange?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Scars

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It seems slightly gay/jersey shore douchebag-ish to me. But if that's what you want then do it. I prefer to get color naturally. Lucky for me I live close enough to the river where I can enjoy it during summer almost every day. I also get a little pale during winters, but I'm mostly covered by long sleeved clothing so it doesn't matter anyways.

-Scars
 

Down Low

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There is nothing wrong with your body. There is something wrong with your mind. Lose that self-doubt. Women can smell it a mile away.

Besides, it's women whose bodies are their only asset. Men have bravery, intellect, strength, and social status: attributes that do not show. Have confidence in your manhood. Confident behavior shows.
 

DavenJuan

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Men getting tans where Im from (Cleveland) is not uncommon.... at all. The fact that you even asked this question had me baffled, as if it was frowned upon by others. Apparently this must be a geographical thing.

Not to mention the women that are constantly flowing in and out of these tanning salons.

I personally dont see a major problem going tanning. Of course I can see why its preferred to naturally tan, but as it relates to looking "orange", or getting "flamed" for tanning, i think your way off base.

Go for it
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Quiksilver

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I went to get one years and years ago, when i was 18. I'm pretty pale as well, despite spending a lot of time outdoors.


They turned me away, because i have Type 2 skin.
 

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it's a GREAT way to get skin cancer. avoid it like the plague.
 

FairShake

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OzyBoy said:
Natural is better. :cool:
Also a GREAT way to get skin cancer. Avoid like the plague.

In general I'd say be comfortable in your own skin. Who cares if girls call you out? How serious could they possibly be anyway?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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