"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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gettin bigger - constantly worrying about how u look?

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Well... Ever since I've been working out and getting bigger, I constantly feel the need to check myself out and stuff. I even subconsciously judge other guys on their size now. Hate it. I can't really help it but think to myself whether people are noticing if I'm jacked or not. Take this for example. I'll be walking down a parking lot and I'll look at my reflection in cars to see myself. I flex a lot in front of the mirror in my own time and check myself out. haha (no homo)

I do get a lot more respect immediately which is sweet. Don't get me wrong, I'm a lot more confident, I just don't like the feeling of never being perfect. Now, instead of congratulating myself on my progress, I feel the need to be more and more perfect. I'd be considered pretty jacked at this point. 5'10 172 like 12% bf, however I still have a long way to go (goal is 185).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know exactly how you feel. I would always be checking myself out in glass windows, car windows, various mirrors, etc.

I don't do it anymore. It's really not an attractive quality. In order to change this, I think you might need to change your mentality of the whole thing.
 
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It's normal to check yourself out in the beginning when you're growing, man. Don't kill yourself over it.

Key is to check yourself out in the BEGINNING. Otherwise you're going to end up like this guy.
 
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The Bat said:
It's normal to check yourself out in the beginning when you're growing, man. Don't kill yourself over it.

Key is to check yourself out in the BEGINNING. Otherwise you're going to end up like this guy.
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I always laugh when I see that one.. lol

So your message is long term narcissism = douche bag?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've made my mentality more towards strength-seeking. I actually like being toned now instead of being big looking in clothes like I used to.
 
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Deep down, we all work out to look good. Our health is not as important as our look, unless we have an immediate health concern. It's ok to check yourself out. If you look good, you feel good. Nothing wrong with that.
 
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Looking good is a result of my training which is for strength.
It's all a means to an end for my sport (boxing).
So looking good comes by itself, and you'll be pleasantly surprised.
 
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