"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gettin back into the game

Billy_Badass

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Well, you people have heard this story 6 trillion times before. I was 21 years old, hadn't even kissed a girl. My friend introduced me to DYD, and from their, I stumbled on this site, and masf. (I tend to prefer this one). I managed to scrounge up enough game to get myself a girl, and lose my vcard. But then something happened. I fell so "in love" with this girl, that I lost my self respect and turned into a gigantic *****.:eek: I have since then been dumped, and disrespected so many times, its not even funny.

The sad thing is, I think I had everything in check as far as LTR stuff goes for the first three months or so. I kept her in check if she disrespected me, I got sex anytime I wanted it(2-3 times a day), and in general, I was pretty satisfied with the way I handled things. I followed this stuff fairly religiously. I was the man, I wore the pants. But then the belt loosened and my pants fell off.:moon: haha, I try and keep a good sense of humor about it.

I won't bore you with the details, all you need to know is that I became a big *****, and women want a man with balls, not a cooch. Thus begins my recovery.

Couple of questions...

1) At the same time I got dumped, all my friends ditch me. I am seriously starting from square 1 socially. I have no ****ing clue what to do. I could really use some male friends, so I can start a new social circle, but I find it to be hard to get off the ground. Any suggestions?

2) I understand that in LTRs, if you get disrespected by your woman, you call her out on her bull****. Sometimes, I come off as a total ass in the process. I want my womans respect, but I don't wanna be a jerk either. How do I find the happy medium of having balls without the ******* part?

With that said, I am approaching almost everyday, anytime something catches my eye. I have gotten about 10 numbers, and have done maybe 45-50 cold approaches since I got dumped. Not a big number, but at least I ain't sitting down. I even went out on a date, although she turned out to be weird. ****in myspace... prolly won't go that route again. So I am doing something at least, but now I need, guidance, wisdom, and direction from you pros!
 

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answer to #2 try being funny but not that dry sarcastic funny that no one gets.
 

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The result of putting women first in life...
 

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penkitten said:
answer to #2 try being funny but not that dry sarcastic funny that no one gets.
Ok... makes sense. Heres an example of some of the BS I tolerated, and if you could give me something to work with, that would be great. I tend to lose my sense of humor when I am being yelled at, so a push in the right direction is needed.

I am a bit hard of hearing at times, and my ex would get super pissy sometimes and yell at me, knowing that I can only do so much about my hearing. I would usually just tell her that she did not need to talk to me in that manner, and leave it at that. That worked in the begining, but as she lost respect for me, "I was not allowed to tell her what to do." What would be a good humorous reply to her for giving me **** about what I can't control?

And, if anyone has any kind of feedback for question number one, that would also be very helpful. Thanks for your response!
 
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