"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Get told to not be a *****.. but whenever I stop being a *****, I get shot back down. What do you people expect?

Veréngárda

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Since I know I'm gonna get this "no true Scotsman" bs, I'm telling you right now that I have no intention of listening to it.

"Oh but you need to have real confidence. What you have isn't real confidence."

Get the **** out of here with that. I'm sick of it already, and that's just from other websites.

In my experience, if you don't stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive. But if you DO stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive even more because asserting yourself makes you a target.

It's gotten to the point where I started training in boxing last year because violence is the only answer I see.

People don't respect "boundaries." Whoever said that needed a good right hook somewhere between the chin and shoulders because it's not true.

In my experience, the only thing people respect is a risk to their physical safety.

I don't understand how anyone could see anything differently. What planet did you people drop from?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hi brother. I am, at times, a hyper aggressive dude ,but with many years of muay thai ring experience. Still (or because of that) I haven't been in a fight for more then 10 years. Two reasons

-Like a chess player I think about the next upcoming move(for both me and my opponent) . E.g he might carry a knife , have friends and family, actively chase me, call the cops on me.

- I dont wanna go through the justice department regulations again and do long sweaty hours of community service( or jail and pay big money) because of some smug ( every hour you work, every penny, you'll think about what got you there)

I read a great analogy, maybe it was even on this site dont remember. But it was something like this:

A black belt (Nngagou, Rico Verhoeven)will just laugh it off when you challenge him. He knows he is more then capable to f you up. No need to prove him self .

A fight is a lose lose situation. Taking boxing classes to hurt people will only give you a false sense of confidence, and probably makes you take on fights you normally ,up untill now ,would have avoided.

Unless you get so good at boxing that you make the mental switch as written above; so good that you KNOW it's a unfair fight and you can just laugh it off. Whether it's a male ***** wanna fight ,or a female ***** wanna make drama; learn to embrace the power of walking away...
 
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Since I know I'm gonna get this "no true Scotsman" bs, I'm telling you right now that I have no intention of listening to it.

"Oh but you need to have real confidence. What you have isn't real confidence."

Get the **** out of here with that. I'm sick of it already, and that's just from other websites.

In my experience, if you don't stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive. But if you DO stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive even more because asserting yourself makes you a target.

It's gotten to the point where I started training in boxing last year because violence is the only answer I see.

People don't respect "boundaries." Whoever said that needed a good right hook somewhere between the chin and shoulders because it's not true.

In my experience, the only thing people respect is a risk to their physical safety.

I don't understand how anyone could see anything differently. What planet did you people drop from?
It's always been that way. But, you don't necessarily have to put yourself at risk legally in order to defend your boundaries. Be creative and learn to lay traps for the over agressive or the cowardly. They are usually one and the same. Bait them into being the aggressor so that you get to play the innocent respondent. BE In Charge of whatever situation you find yourself in. There is no magic formula. Only a winner's state of mind that responds to circumstances as they are in a particular situation.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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