"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Get told to not be a *****.. but whenever I stop being a *****, I get shot back down. What do you people expect?

Veréngárda

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Since I know I'm gonna get this "no true Scotsman" bs, I'm telling you right now that I have no intention of listening to it.

"Oh but you need to have real confidence. What you have isn't real confidence."

Get the **** out of here with that. I'm sick of it already, and that's just from other websites.

In my experience, if you don't stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive. But if you DO stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive even more because asserting yourself makes you a target.

It's gotten to the point where I started training in boxing last year because violence is the only answer I see.

People don't respect "boundaries." Whoever said that needed a good right hook somewhere between the chin and shoulders because it's not true.

In my experience, the only thing people respect is a risk to their physical safety.

I don't understand how anyone could see anything differently. What planet did you people drop from?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi brother. I am, at times, a hyper aggressive dude ,but with many years of muay thai ring experience. Still (or because of that) I haven't been in a fight for more then 10 years. Two reasons

-Like a chess player I think about the next upcoming move(for both me and my opponent) . E.g he might carry a knife , have friends and family, actively chase me, call the cops on me.

- I dont wanna go through the justice department regulations again and do long sweaty hours of community service( or jail and pay big money) because of some smug ( every hour you work, every penny, you'll think about what got you there)

I read a great analogy, maybe it was even on this site dont remember. But it was something like this:

A black belt (Nngagou, Rico Verhoeven)will just laugh it off when you challenge him. He knows he is more then capable to f you up. No need to prove him self .

A fight is a lose lose situation. Taking boxing classes to hurt people will only give you a false sense of confidence, and probably makes you take on fights you normally ,up untill now ,would have avoided.

Unless you get so good at boxing that you make the mental switch as written above; so good that you KNOW it's a unfair fight and you can just laugh it off. Whether it's a male ***** wanna fight ,or a female ***** wanna make drama; learn to embrace the power of walking away...
 
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Since I know I'm gonna get this "no true Scotsman" bs, I'm telling you right now that I have no intention of listening to it.

"Oh but you need to have real confidence. What you have isn't real confidence."

Get the **** out of here with that. I'm sick of it already, and that's just from other websites.

In my experience, if you don't stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive. But if you DO stand up for yourself, you get eaten alive even more because asserting yourself makes you a target.

It's gotten to the point where I started training in boxing last year because violence is the only answer I see.

People don't respect "boundaries." Whoever said that needed a good right hook somewhere between the chin and shoulders because it's not true.

In my experience, the only thing people respect is a risk to their physical safety.

I don't understand how anyone could see anything differently. What planet did you people drop from?
It's always been that way. But, you don't necessarily have to put yourself at risk legally in order to defend your boundaries. Be creative and learn to lay traps for the over agressive or the cowardly. They are usually one and the same. Bait them into being the aggressor so that you get to play the innocent respondent. BE In Charge of whatever situation you find yourself in. There is no magic formula. Only a winner's state of mind that responds to circumstances as they are in a particular situation.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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