Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"Get to know you" ???s

Handsome Dee

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What are som good qstions to really get to know a female besides.....

Where you from/how old are you/what skool you go to??
What you like to do?
How was ur Past Relationships like?
How you feel about me?
What type of boys do u like??
What type of relationship are you looking for?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Handsome Dee said:
How was ur Past Relationships like?
How you feel about me?
What type of boys do u like??
What type of relationship are you looking for?
Those are NOT good questions you ask a girl when you first meet or on your first date. In fact, those are the worst kind of questions you ask! Your goal is to get to know her, which means, you're going to ask questions about her hobbies, her youth, friends, education, work.

However, your don't seduce a girl mainly by giving her a questionnaire. No, instead you get to know her by doing FUN things with her. You go bowling, or mini golfing, or whatever, and constantly tease her, be ****y and funny, make little jokes about her goofy traits or whatever. Don't question her, make fun with her!

If you think you suck at conversation, go read "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.
 

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SandHawk said:
Those are NOT good questions you ask a girl when you first meet or on your first date. In fact, those are the worst kind of questions you ask! Your goal is to get to know her, which means, you're going to ask questions about her hobbies, her youth, friends, education, work.

However, your don't seduce a girl mainly by giving her a questionnaire. No, instead you get to know her by doing FUN things with her. You go bowling, or mini golfing, or whatever, and constantly tease her, be ****y and funny, make little jokes about her goofy traits or whatever. Don't question her, make fun with her!

If you think you suck at conversation, go read "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.
im talking about a girl whose around 16...or would the same rules apply??
 

Mantis Toboggan

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Handsome Dee said:
im talking about a girl whose around 16...or would the same rules apply??
No. Because younger girls love boring guys with boring questions.

What do you think, genius?

Yes, you still have to be interesting and fun. And the "getting to know you" questions happen throughout the course of a date/conversation. It's not like a list of questions.

Typically you talk about the interesting things happening around you in the moment. Not asking her for a 10 year resume.

There's nothing sexy or exciting about getting to know someone. What's sexy and exciting is this girl meeting a fun, intelligent guy who takes her on adventures.
 

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Ask what YOU want to know about her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Handsome Dee, for your sake I hope you really are handsome! Because you sure won't win her with your questions ;)
 

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when I read the list of questions you have up here, I was like wtf. thanks that somebody already pointed out that those were the WORST questions, EVER, specially asking about past relationships and stuff. Why do you, as a dude, care about that?

You are a dude, be interesting, adventurous, and take your girls outside her zone to explore the world. Become what she is not. Talk about interesting ****s that don't really matter and by time you know it, you will already know a lot more about her, alright?
 
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