"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Get the girl at work

Chris83

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hey guys, im new on here and i'll have to admit that some of the stuff here is golden! I have experience approaching women and getting the girl, so im not completely in the dark regarding this stuff. But i feel this situation is a bit different...

I recently started working at this restaurant as a server, and there's this girl... lets say her name is Sarah, and she's a hostess. I already started talkin to her to establish some kind of relationship but its nothing really significant. I just went up to her and said "hi, how's work?" and we just talked about how its like working there, and what school she goes to. Then after i cut the convo short by saying, "im gonna take my break now, but my name is Chris." and then she told me her name then i left. My goal is to get this girl, but i feel a bit more cautious doing this because if i do something really stupid, or if things don't work out between us, it'll make the workplace feel a bit awkward.

So, for the Don Juan MASTERS, how would you advise me to approach this situation while keeping the work space comfortable (between me and sarah that is).

Any advise would be great!!! Thanks fellas!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DrSoSuave

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You are just like the other dozen guys a week that try to "build rapport" with her.
 

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Dating co-workers is fraught with trouble. That's not to say it can't work, but it is a demanding situation. Tread carefully here...
 

thefonz

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he doesn't work for Initech or a major corporation or anything like that.....he's in food service, the ass end of the working man's chain....so what if he wants to hook up with her cus he's gonna get a new job in a few months anyway....just have fun with yourself while busting her chops and you'll be "right as rain"
 

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Its such a general question at the minute because you've basically just started talking with this girl. Not to **** on things already but she may even have a BF. At the minute your goal is to exert value, if you don't understand how to do this, then definitely read the Bible because it's one of the tenets of being a DJ...

You want her to enjoy whatever time you spend together so that she actively seeks you out to join her on her breaks, to see each other outside of work etc... a danger in the work scenario is that you mistake a friend for something more however, and you're left without an escape from the friend zone before you know it...

And almost forgot... most importantly, run this game on all the girls in the shop... there is nothing better than to have a number of the girls talking about you in a favourable light, and you are further portrayed as a valuable asset because she doesn't take your interest for granted... she's left to fight it out with the other girls and she ends up wondering how she can exert value to you...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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